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« on: September 09, 2005, 13:27:01 pm »
Hi there,

My 5.5 mth old is on EASY routine since 5 days and is following quite well during the day.  :P

At 7:30 pm she is usually in bed, I follow Tracy's advice and we close the door, the curtains, the light, then I sit on the floor and I play some soft music, I give her the passy. When I see her deep staire or that her eyes are closing she goes to bed. No protest.

The problem arises during the night.  :?  She can wake up anywhere from 2AM-4:30AM and she wants to be BF, I am trying to elliminate that since she is on bf/solid in the day, so I started to give her the passy and PU/PD. She becomes slowly histerical and it can take up to 2 hrs to put her back to sleep.

Please help us, me and my husband we are exhausted, frustrated,  :evil:  and sometimes I feel like giving her the boob since it took her 5min and she was back to sleep again.  :(

Sorry for the long memo.
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« Reply #1 on: September 09, 2005, 19:24:10 pm »
I don't know about your particular circumstances, but I would guess that since she isn't waking at exactly the same time and gets so upset when you don't feed her that she might actually be hungry.  Even when they start solids, some of them still need a feed during the night.  My dd ate at least once a night until 10 months.  We probably could have stopped a little sooner, but she is on the skinny side and I just didn't want to take a chance that she was actually hungry (and it was the one night waking that I knew I could get her back to sleep quickly--we had a LOT of other issues going on too).

Maybe you could hold off for a couple more months and see if she starts to drop this feeding on her own.  I think a lot of them do.  And you sound like you already have such good routines set up and good habits with going to bed that I would bet she will fix this herself in a couple months, or you can try again and maybe it will be easier.

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« Reply #2 on: September 09, 2005, 19:32:27 pm »
I agree with Kim, it sounds like she still needs this night feed at this point. It's not uncommon for babies to still wake to eat at this age...my DS woke twice a night to eat until 7 mo, and he just dropped the night feeds on his own as soon as I started giving him a bottle instead. Make sure she's taking full feedings during the day, and you might try gradually reducing the amount of time she bfs during the night. If she takes a bottle during the day, you can try giving her one at night of either formula or ebm and see if that helps her lose interest. You can also just wait it out and see if she gives it up on her own. HTH!
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« Reply #3 on: September 10, 2005, 19:43:51 pm »
Thank you Kim and Melissa for your advice.

While I was wating for someone advice I tried something different.
Since my DD eats a lot and is a big baby 20lbs at 5.5mths I tried to give her a bottle with cereal during her dream feed and the brest. She ate 6oz of cereal mixed with water and at least 3oz of bf.

This should be sufficent for the night I thought. The reaction was as follow.
She woke up at 3:30am I gave her the passy and she felt right back to sleep then she woke up 45min later at 4:15am not crying just screamed for me, again I gave her the passy and she went right back to sleep. Finally she woke up at 5:30 I gave her the passy she felt asleep but woke 15min later. I gave her the brest.

I have a feeling that she just doesn't know how to get back to sleep by herself since she was full and still woke up.

Also from 3.5 months to about 4.5 months she was sleeping from 7:30 to 4:30/5 am with the dremfeed but it has changed when we went on a trip and she was sleeping with me in bed.

I will try for few more days this and record her reaction if this doesn't work I will BF, the only thing that I am afraid is what if she wakes up ever 3hrs or less.    :cry:

Very beautifull pictures of your kids.

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« Reply #4 on: October 05, 2005, 00:54:16 am »
It has been a while since my problem but things are back to normal now.
My baby girl sleeps from 7:30 to 4:30-5:00 am then bf and she goes back to sleep utill 7:00-7:30am.

The whole week that was crazy was b/c she was teething. Now she has two beautiful teeth in the bottom.

So sometimes when there is a sudden change in your baby's behavior it can be b/c of teething.  :D

Hope this helps someone.

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« Reply #5 on: October 05, 2005, 01:06:48 am »
I'm so glad to hear that things are back to normal! It's amazing how wacky things get because of teeth, isn't it?
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« Reply #6 on: October 05, 2005, 01:20:26 am »
Hi Melissa,

This is so true, I could never imagine how hard it can be when babys are teething. Now I am ready for the next ones, bought some baby Advil and some gel. Hope it's going to be easier. :lol:

She still feed once a night but I am ok with that and as per your advice some babys just need more food, so I will wait and see what happens.

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« Reply #7 on: October 06, 2005, 03:26:56 am »
Glad that you are getting some sleep again.  Teething can be so awful, and its hard to know if that is what is causing the problems until its all over, and even then, who knows half the time  :?  :D   We have just recently decided that probably a lot of dd's wakings and horrible nights we've had over the past year were due to teething pain--she isn't very good at it :D   It does make it easier though when you feel like there is a reason for their schedule changing and being thrown off.  We're just counting the days until her two year old molars are in (we still have 8 teeth to go, so it is no time soon :P ).

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« Reply #8 on: October 06, 2005, 11:40:22 am »
Hi Kim,

Thanks for your reply. Isn't this website amazing?
We did get some sleep but not for long. She had her vaccination two days ago and that night she was so upset that she woke up ever hour and was histerical. Thank God it was only one night, but yesterday she woke up twice, we will see tonight. Hope she gets back on track.

I totaly agree with your statement
[Teething can be so awful, and its hard to know if that is what is causing the problems until its all over, and even then, who knows half the time ]

Hang in there with your luv, I hear that it gets little easier with time. Us we have to learn the PC of Tracy's acronyms (P for patience & C for consciousness) for her teething.

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« Reply #9 on: October 06, 2005, 16:59:13 pm »
I'm going to throw out a dependency to suck to sleep too -- pacifier or breast.  Actually, you'll be hitting a point when she can put the pacifier in herself soon (another month or two), so I'm not suggesting necessarily that you wean her from it, but maybe work on teaching her to put it in by herself.

She's five months?

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« Reply #10 on: October 14, 2005, 00:47:52 am »
Hi Laura,

Thanks for your advice. Me and my husband have decided to stop the use of the passy and to tell you the truth it wasn't easy but it wasn't that hard either.

My husband did PU/PD at night because she was waking anywhere between 3:30 and 5:30 to feed and that led to the eliimination of the passy.

It has been 4 days since she doesn't use it. She fall asleep by herself, sometimes she puts her hand in the mouth, which is great  :D , she self sooths. The best part is that she finally did her full night of sleep. Also her nap times have prolonged. We are so happy, yesterday we had some regression, she woke few times at night but during the day she napped for two hours and then for 1:45 min when she used to sleep 45 min only.

I think, no I am sure we are on the right track.

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