ALMOST FELL OUT OF COT AND SCARED OF SLEEPING IN ROOM- HELP!

[Sienna's Mama]

well, my 18 month old little girl FINALLY after 17 months, started sleeping through.... i tried the 'no-cry' method, the gradual method, the pu/pd method, the only pd method or only stayin in room with her(until held hostage for 45 min at a time)  and finally, i realised that my LO was 'all or nothing' (same went for weaning at 13 months off boob) and had to teach her to sleep WITHOUT mommy being in the room... a hard 1st night and 2 days, but on the 3rd night of lullaby, cuddles, into bed then mommy out of the room, she did not cry a bit and went right to sleep with no wakings......... i cherished those sleeping nights, and for the first time in god knows how many months, even went out twice in the evening..

well, about a week ago, 2things happened: 1- started refusing to sleep in day in own bed (only sleep if out or being pushed in chair and 2- VERY earlly morning wakings which started at 5:30 and went as early as 4.. had enough and paediatrition said to do more sleep training to let her know that it wasn't time to wake up, and then the most dangerous thing could have happened.. a set of drawers is next to her cot, and she managed to use it as leverage to pull herself out (thank the lord for video baby moniters) and i managed to race in just in time to take her little body off the top of the cotbed before she fell out.. i moved the drawers, put her back in , and was glued to the moniterl. i didn't think she could do it w/out the leverage because the cot comes up to her chin, but, sure enough, my stong cookie did and i got in just in time to get her while her feet about swung over.. feeling sick because was so scared (hard floor too) i picked her up and walked with her.. next day, put the 'toddler bed' attachment on side of cotbed and matress under that so if she rolls out, does not hurt herself. made big deal about her new 'big girl' bed and rearranged her room to make it seem new and different to try to help her with the newfound fear she developed with sleeping in her room (at night now too)

sorry this is so long, but to finish, i can get her to sleep in her bed only if i am with her and physically closeby telling her that i'm there.... last night i slept in her room (i am more dylerious than i have been in TOOO long) and she woke once, don't know what time, and at 4 when she tossed and turned, i had awoken before her and rubbed herback so she didn't wake..... i need help... advice.... support...... anything ploease!!!!!!!! i don't know what is right and i don't want my presence in the room to make the constant wakings come back... goin to in-laws in england (from panama) in 2 weeks for 3 months, and can't do sleep training at their house because they will go mental if she cries evein a bit..... PLEASE, IS THERE ANYONE OUT THERE THAT HAS GONE THROUGH SOMETHING SIMILAR? WHAT WORKED? SO TIRED AND LOSING PATIENCE!!!! need a miracle.... or maybe it's a phase.... god knows........ help me! anything you say is GREATLY appreciated

[Jayri]

Our ds has screamed going to bed at times.
What we tried was a bed guard on one side of his bed, a body pillow on the other, a nice comfy pillow for his head and countless teddies and books, and not forgetting the nice fluffy comforter thrown in for good measure
I think he found his bed too bare, we did that a week ago and so far so good.
Constant reassurance worked too, we just pop our head in and calmly remind him that it is bedtime, we love him and will see him in the morning.
HTH. Good Luck, keep us posted if you need anymore help.

[Sienna's Mama]

Jayson&Riley'smum- so, do you close the door on him? do you have a gate at the door? the last 2 nights, she has been going to bed ok (at 8 instead of 7:30) and actually waking up at a very good hour (6:30-- normal was 6!) the only (and it's a big one) problem is that she goes to sleep only with me physically in the room, and eitherwith my hand on her back or my face in view....... i am now confined to her room at night becasue i'm so tired, it's just easier than getting up from my room several times and going to her until she falls asleep again... then at about 5ish she wants out of the bed, and i tell her that the sun's not out so it's still sleepy-time, which is working well, then she falls asleep on one of the matress/comfortable items around her bed... i have gone from one extreme to the other on more than one occasion now, and just want my li'l girl not only to feel comfortable sleeping in her 'new big girl bed' (which she does if i'm there) but also i want to sleep through thenight again, and maybe get (just a little!!! once every 2 weeks or so!!!) some time for myself in the evening to go out.... WHAT DO I DO!?!??!?!?!??!

[Jayri]

Oh, I hope that I can help you.
What dh and I did for ds was to keep going into him, as much as it is a pain in the rear to do it, we didn't get anywhere if we stayed in there.
We told him he could read a book to his teddies, sing to them, whatever, give him a big boy job. Basically to help his toys go to sleep.
It did take a while, but if you keep going back in and reassuring her, then she will learn to understand that bed is where she goes at bedtime, and mummy is not too far away.
The first few nights we did it we were in and out I would say at least 6 times or so, but if you are consistent with it, then it will hopefully work for you. I say hopefully as every child is different.
HTH, let me know if you need more ideas.
Take Care.