Thank you!! I was also thinking that even if I did believe her, that it would be too late to stop now... I know for sure dd remembers things from more than a few weeks before. It would make jealousy issues worse than than better (which was another thing that mw mentioned)!
I have no problem with tandem feeding, but also understand that dd may not be happy with the sudden influx of milk, and that's ok too. I have tried talking to her about the baby coming, and that baby will also drink my milk; also she's seen lots of pics of newborns nursing, and knows what they're doing.
I too would not be too unhappy if this baby came 'early' due to the nursing!! (And no, she certainly isn't nursing for 2hrs a day!).
The thing with my MW is that my previous one had said it's quite ok, and just to make sure newborn feeds first etc (which the LC had told me is really only true while the colostrum is still there). My new MW was the 'partner' of the old one, and they're really good friends, both came over to NZ from UK together etc etc - I just can't understand why they have such different views on this...
Anyway, I'm off to nurse my dd!
Thanks again for your support!