Hi Edi:
Have you tried just giving her the food directly onto her high chair tray?? Does she eat lumpy / chunked food yet? Even if she is still on mashed, you can use that as a finger food too.
Try cutting up canned fruits (they are softer), cooked potato, carrotts, turnip, etc either chunked small or smashed ... anything you eat. Just put them onto the tray in front of her.
DS refuses to eat anything from a spoon except is infant cereal.
HTH and good luck