It sounds like you're in a really rough spot, and I totally understand. I have a spirited little guy myself who's only 4 weeks older than yours, and we went through the same thing with him as we tried to implement EASY and wean from the pacifier. At that age we were on a 3-3.5 hour EASY, so right around an hour or 1.5 of awake time, I'd go put him down. We're still swaddling, though we took away the paci 3 weeks ago since he refused to sleep without it and woke up every 30 min for it. That's when we started pu/pd, which was very hard for a week and a half, but totally worth it.
For us, what seemed helpful was to begin putting him down before he really seemed tired. We really had to watch the clock more and if people wanted to visit, I just said, look, he's tired and he needs to go to sleep now, and put him to bed. It was difficult, especially during pu/pd because he would proceed to scream for 30-45 minutes (on a good day), but figuring out his schedule and just announcing that it was bedtime worked. I'd notice that after I had him swaddled and was rocking him or singing to him, that's when he'd make his first tired sign, but if I waited until he yawned or whatever, he'd just never do it, and end up overtired. You may just have to pre-empt your lo and "know" when naptime is coming.
I know this doesn't make much sense, but hopefully you'll be able to get something useful out of it.