Author Topic: can't sit back down after pulling herself up (Read 5087 times)

jchang · « **on:** September 28, 2005, 17:48:50 pm »

I didn't know where to ask this question so I'll just use this section. My 8mo has learned how to pull herself to a standing position. Unfortunately, she doesn't know how to sit back down. So when I put her down for a nap, she'll pull herself but gets upset b/c she can't get back down. Any ideas on how to go about teaching her to get back on her butt?

Mum to Ella Rose · « **Reply #1 on:** September 28, 2005, 17:54:42 pm »

Argh! This whole process threw us for a loop for 3 1/2 weeks! :shock: Not fun! :lol:

We did what Tracy suggests. Put your dd in her crib sometime during the day. When she's standing in it place her hands around the slats then from your side place your hands over hers and slowly slide them down until she plops onto her bum. Then give her a big cheer for "sitting down so well!" My dh did this a lot with our dd and she learned within a few days. though that didn't prevent the nighttime standing...no...that was WAY too much fun! :lol:

Sharon

jchang · « **Reply #2 on:** September 28, 2005, 22:46:29 pm »

Past few naps when she stood up, I would lay her down once or twice and she'd stay down. This nap, she's refused to stay down. She's been fighting me & crying for 30 minutes now. Still crying... I've laid her down 10 times or so. Argh! She's been so great with naps - I would just lay her down & she'd be out in a minute. Any suggestions to keep her down? I want to take care of this before it gets worse - as in, affecting her night time ritual.

Mum to Ella Rose · « **Reply #3 on:** September 28, 2005, 22:58:05 pm »

When this started with us, the first few days we would be laying her down 50 plus times in a row before we could even attempt to leave the room. Then we'd inevitably have to go back in and start all over again. :? It's not fun. It's terribly tiring and trying on everyone but if you stay consistent and keep teaching them how to sit back down, the novelty does wear off and you'll get back to normal. It's just real tough to stay consistent, but it's important. Once 3 1/2 weeks had passed of this...we went back to a dd who slept 12 hours overnight and had two decent naps a day. Hang in there!!!

Sharon

jchang · « **Reply #4 on:** September 28, 2005, 23:27:27 pm »

Thanks! It took about an hour and only 20 times :shock: . We'll stick to it. My little girl is Ella, too. People always comment on what a pretty name she has.

Mum to Ella Rose · « **Reply #5 on:** September 28, 2005, 23:33:43 pm »

Aw another Ella... that's awesome!

Keep us posted on how it goes, okay?

Sharon

Kinlagh's Folks · « **Reply #6 on:** September 29, 2005, 20:55:18 pm »

You guys are scaring me. DD started this standing business today and she actually went without a 2nd nap. We tried for 1.5 hours with no luck, then it was almost bottle time so got her up. We're a little different though cause she stands from a crawling position (goes from crawl, to kneel, then standing). And for a baby that's used to tummy sleeping, it was really tough!!!
So now here we are 1 hour away from bedtime. I'm terrified of the thought of this for 3 days let alone 3 weeks. Yikes! And it just started at the worst time, dh is away for 5 days and I'm not cut out to be a single mom that's for sure!!!
Wish me luck for tonight. I'm too exhausted for another 1.5 hours. I hope she is too. :roll:

evanskimberley · « **Reply #7 on:** September 29, 2005, 22:23:57 pm »

DH taught DD how to sit down whilst playing in the living room. She was putting things on the floor from the coffee table and he taught her how to bend down and how to sit down next to them. It took a little bit longer for her to be able to do this in her cot.

Everytime I went into her I would put her down in the way she sohould do it herself too.

I would only go in to DD when she cried out cos she wanted to get back down, if she was just standing up and playng I left her to it.

Kinlagh's Folks · « **Reply #8 on:** September 29, 2005, 22:30:23 pm »

Thanks all for your advice. I used some of your suggestions it worked. I only had to put her down twice before she settled to sleep. Although she was exhausted because of no afternoon nap. :wink:

And I thought I had already started training her to fall down on her bum from standing, but maybe I'll focus now more on getting down, and not how to "fall down". Thanks everyone!

momofnewbaby · « **Reply #9 on:** September 29, 2005, 22:34:14 pm »

I know how frustrating that can be. I'm in the same boat right now, and had a huge vent yesterday on the naps forum. But, the best we can do is ride it out. I know its a phase, and it too shall pass, but I also know how hard it can be, in terms of patience. If its getting too much, I just take a minute to take a deep long breath, and keep doing what I am doing (laying her down). Hopefully, she'll get the hang of it soon enough.

Hang in there.
Sumita

Mum to Ella Rose · « **Reply #10 on:** September 29, 2005, 23:44:33 pm »

Oh Kimberley makes a great point about not going back in if they are standing but not crying. We also left dd. I'd lay her down, do the whole routine and even if she was standing by the end of it I still just said night night and left the room.

Sharon

Kinlagh's Folks · « **Reply #11 on:** September 29, 2005, 23:47:20 pm »

So what I'm getting from you is not to make a big deal of it. Just lay her back down with little talking. I guess the only congratulations & praise she gets is when she stands when awake...am I right?

Mum to Ella Rose · « **Reply #12 on:** September 30, 2005, 00:32:28 am »

I'd say yes! :lol:

Keep us posted...

Sharon

evanskimberley · « **Reply #13 on:** September 30, 2005, 07:45:03 am »

yes yes yes!!!!

I only say good night or it's time for byebyes when i go in, nothing else and I don't make eye contact either.

Think of it as a form of pu/pd.

Kinlagh's Folks · « **Reply #14 on:** September 30, 2005, 12:48:29 pm »

I'm doing the PD (not PU as she's already standing), but that seems to get her more upset. She seems to cry more each time. When she's crying for me, but not standing, do I still go in or wait til she tries to stand? I'm so confused!!!

Mum to Ella Rose · « **Reply #15 on:** September 30, 2005, 14:49:29 pm »

She's upset because she doesn't want to go to sleep. She wants to practice standing up! :lol: But yes. If she's crying and she's laying down you go in and do everything you usually do to calm her. You're just adding the p/d if she's standing. It made Ella right mad too but it does get better. This is where consistency is sooooo tough. I think it was 8-10 months that Tracy said is a prime time for accidental parenting...?

Sharon

Mum to Ella Rose · « **Reply #16 on:** September 30, 2005, 14:50:17 pm »

And I should say it sound's like you're doing great!!!!

Kinlagh's Folks · « **Reply #17 on:** September 30, 2005, 16:48:24 pm »

Thank you!!! Doesn't always feel like it. It's quite tiring...especially since this all started while dh is away on business. And to think, he's actually upset he's not here to see this new "first". :shock: :shock:

evanskimberley · « **Reply #18 on:** September 30, 2005, 18:37:59 pm »

Yep, i agree with michelle, sounds like you're doing a grand job already, just hang in their a bit longer!!!

I tried to put a positive spin on it, every time i had to walk back upstairs to lie her back down i was exercising!!!

Kinlagh's Folks · « **Reply #19 on:** October 01, 2005, 22:22:44 pm »

Well ladies....Zero, yes I said zero pu/pd for crib standing tonight. YAY!!!!!! There isn't an emoticon to show how happy I am. Only 2 pd for each of her naps today and zero at bedtime. And the 2 at naptimes involved very little crying - it was mostly stopping her from play standing. It's a miracle. I hope she's catching on and it's not just a fluke! And guess what, dh comes home tonight to a nice calm, happy (but sick) baby. He'll never believe that I had such a difficult week.

Thanks all for your advice and support! You got me through yet another "crisis".

Mum to Ella Rose · « **Reply #20 on:** October 01, 2005, 23:06:16 pm »

Yeah Michelle and Kinlagh!!!

Nice work! Now don't be discouraged if you have regression. Some is normal. Hopefully you won't though!

Sharon

Kinlagh's Folks · « **Reply #21 on:** October 01, 2005, 23:19:54 pm »

Thanks Sharon. And great new avatar! What a sweet picture of Ella...is she with a grandparent for the new month?

Mum to Ella Rose · « **Reply #22 on:** October 02, 2005, 00:34:27 am »

Thank you! It's my father in law...one of my favorites except she was sooo upset that day. :cry: Grandpa was the only one who could soothe her.

Love your new pic too btw!

Take care,

Sharon

jchang · « **Reply #23 on:** October 02, 2005, 18:26:18 pm »

I'm so annoyed! :evil: DD's been getting up once in the middle of night for the past couple of nights (I thought we had solved that issue but I guess it's coming back) so I had DH take care of her & try to get her back to sleep with the explicit instruction to not feed her. So guess what he did? Of course, he gave her some milk!!!!! His reasoning to me was that he didn't think milk was food, just something to drink. What?

%%%&&& I can pretty much guarantee that she's going to wake up tonight. On the bright side, I think we have the naps back to normal - she hasn't stood up during naps for a couple of days. That only took a day or so to nip in the bud.

NKmommy · « **Reply #24 on:** October 02, 2005, 18:32:42 pm »

Quote from: jchang

so I had DH take care of her & try to get her back to sleep with the explicit instruction to not feed her. So guess what he did? Of course, he gave her some milk!!!!! His reasoning to me was that he didn't think milk was food, just something to drink. What?%%%&&&

I am sorry that she is waking, but this made me laugh so hard! Sounds JUST like something my dh would do! :?

jchang · « **Reply #25 on:** October 02, 2005, 18:43:19 pm »

Dh is one of the smartest people I know but there are times...

jchang · « **Reply #26 on:** October 03, 2005, 19:45:26 pm »

Well, I was premature in saying that her naps are back to normal. I'm getting so frustrated. She used to go down for 1.5 hour naps without a problem after 2 hours of awake time (clock-watching). Past 2 days we've been struggling to get her to take a nap (I've been waiting 2.5 hours) & she only naps about 45 minutes. She's still doing the standing thing which we're working on. Is this a phase? What the heck is going on? I want to jump off a cliff!!!

Missy Norment · « **Reply #27 on:** December 03, 2005, 04:21:46 am »

J chang -
What happened with the standing in crib??? I am curious because my boy started doing this today and tonight putting him to bed has been a nightmare! How long did it take for yours to stop doing this?

My dh and I just kept putting him on his back about 10 times before he slept out of exhaustion. Thanks for any help you have.

jchang · « **Reply #28 on:** December 03, 2005, 04:31:18 am »

It took a few days for her to figure out how to get back down. At the time, she was sleeping in her pack n' play with the mesh sides so we couldn't teach her the technique of sliding her hands down the bars. Instead she figured out on her own that if she put 1 hand down, then she could kneel down & get back to lying down. You can probably work on teaching her that so she'll get the hang of it more quickly. We just kept putting her down like you're doing until she tired out. It'll get better. Hang in there.

Missy Norment · « **Reply #29 on:** December 03, 2005, 04:41:02 am »

Did she just let herself back down after a few days or stop the standing all together?

jchang · « **Reply #30 on:** December 03, 2005, 04:48:18 am »

She still stands but it doesn't bother her anymore b/c she knows how to get back down. I'll watch her on the video monitor stand up for a few seconds & go back to sleep afterwards.

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