Red is now 14 weeks old and is generally speaking a good sleeper. Given the chance (dim room, not too noisy, swaddled etc) he will go down for a nap quickly (within 10 minutes) and sleep between 45mins and 2 hours.
He sleeps well at night too, going down at 7pm, df at 10.30pm then through till anywhere between 5-7am.
He is finding his hands and loves to suck on them, he just hasn't found a particular thumb or finger consistently yet. He is swaddled for his naps and seems to need it to sleep, he also has a paci, that he needs to fall asleep. I don't mind this at all, it has not been a problem at any stage yet. I would like to unswaddle him and give him a chance to self-soothe, in whatever form that takes, but he won't settle if i even leave one arm out. The main problem being that he pulls his paci out and then cannot settle without it, he is also touchy and the fact that his arms are loose really bothers him.
What should i do next? Should i continue on with what we are doing? He is sleeping successfully and settles easily, but i feel like i am giving him no chance to self soothe, or learn how to self soothe. Or should i unswaddle him and start PU/PD?? He is the kind of baby that like to be left, even now we have no wind down as he hates the stimulation of it. We go to his room, swaddle, place in cot, insert paci and walk away, if i am even in his line of sight he won't settle, so i fear that pu/pd will overstimualte him further??
What do you all think??