Have you tried cheerios? She can easily pick them up, and you don't have to fear her choking on them, since they melt pretty easily in the mouth. Another option is cheese. I gave my lo, small bite size peices of cheese, and she seemed fine with them. Or, banana coated with cereal, so it doesn't slip out of her grasp, when she wants to pick it up. Again, it would melt in her mouth and not choke her.
Can't think of anything else at the moment. If I do, I will let you know.
HTH
Sumita