March/April 05 Thread #2

[mickymuscles]

roz...we are feeding 3 solid meals a day and 4 bottles a day.

jack doesn't even seem to notice that his legs are out of order for a while.  He just gets frustrated that he can't walk around anymore.  He can still roll just fine but I think it is definitely a good thing that he hadn't learned to crawl yet because that surely would have driven him nuts.

[sophieandhannah]

Micky, how long does Jack have the casts for?

[M&M'sMom]

There is always so much fun stuff to catch up on!!

Hannah- I did get the tongue peirced right after ex was outta-there... I had the button peirced a long time ago, had a little scar, I thought it was the scar "getting long" when I was preggo, but now I have the funniest stretch mark there!

Micky- Jackson looks like such a trooper in his casts!

Anyone else had their lo wake up at 5 am and TALK until 6am! My dh can sleep through anything so he didn't mind- I had to go downstairs to the couch and put a pillow over my head!! There was NO WAY I was waking at 5!!!!

I know this is short notice Micky- but my friend and I are going to WEM this afternoon ( time = ) but I will be the ones with the twinsicle stroller fighting to get in and out of stores (probably shoe stores!) Maybe we will see you there??? I have added a pic of the twins you can look for.....

I love all of the stories... isn't fate amazing? So many people in the world and we meet our men and create these beautiful babies!!!

Take care,
Jod

[Arwyn's mom]

Micky... Jackson is so cute, casts and all! Isn't it amazing that they just make do? Rolling around and everything!

Traci... {{{HUGS}}} didn't mean to make you cry. My virtual shoulders are here for you, anytime.

Okay... sex. None happening here. (BTW, did you guys notice that Naomi, the little sex bunny, has been conspicuously absent on this topic?) Anyway, pretty much the same story as everybody else... it was good in the beginning... then we got married... TTC window was good again... now we have Arwyn. The good thing is, I have a DH whose drive is low anyway. It drove me crazy in the beginning (I was feeling like I jumped him all the time :oops: ) but now, it is a perfect match.  :roll:

I also don't feel very sexy... flappy bit of "peanut shell" hanging over my C-section scar does not make me feel in the least bit sexy. Now this is crazy... I have lost a bit of weight but I feel fatter?? WTF? I know my ob/gyn told me to give myself a year to get back to pre-pregnancy shape (round is a shape, right?) and not to diet while BFing.  :roll: So... I try to get out and walk as much as possible and I do go to yoga once a week but it is obviously not enough for my body to kick off some of this baby weight!

OH... all this interesting talk... I forgot about our night. Well... she woke at 10:30 and I fed her. She gave me until 3:24 am!!! Wow, can't believe I am excited about that! I fed her again and she only slept until 5 am. It took myself and then DH to finally get her back to sleep by 5:40 and she slept until 7 am. Had a 55 min nap... oh why can't we sleep longer???

Now, we are off to go for a walk after her 11 am BF.

Roz... 3 meals and 4 day feeds plus DF (if she wakes) as well as 1 night feed happening here. Before the night wakings started again, she was only getting 2 meals and 5 day feeds.

TTFN my friends!

[Erin M]

Happy Friday!

alright-enough about sex and alcohol! LOL-trying to lighten the conversation leading into the weekend

ummm....anyone else remember when sex and alcohol pretty much WAS the weekend  :lol:

Micky - Poor Jackson!...but I have to agree he does look really cute in a very sad sort of way.  Good luck with the bathing and ugh, maybe some extra absorbent diapers or double diapers or something to avoid him "pulling a Ryan".  I just moved Katie up into the next diaper size as we were having way too many of those moments ourselves. 

Jody - lovely pic of the twins!

Judy - your DH (and everyone else's actually) sounds lovely and very understanding (I guess he has to be, he's so outnumbered over there!)

Ankie - Hooray for the good night!  You deserve it!  Fingers crossed that it continues!!

Roz/Andrea - we do 4 BFs and 3 meals here a day.  Andrea - when I'm at work two days a week, Katie pretty much downs an 8-9 oz bottle for every feed I miss with her.  Also, she gets another couple of ounces mixed in with her cereal.  Supposedly milk intake goes down a bit anyway at this age as they start solids.

Hmm....sex drive...not great either, but getting a bit better.  We've been setting goals here, as in x number of times per month.

As for Katie, she's got pretty much every sign of teething in the book (definitely including crankyness).  I thought we were going to get a break, but perhaps not.  We'll see - as we all know, stupid teeth just are so uncooperative.  Going to see a bunch of girls from college tomorrow and do some lunch/shopping - bringing Katie with me, one of the other girls is bringing her 3-month old (no one else has kids yet!).  I'm looking forward to it - hope Katie is in a better mood than she is today.

[Judy]

Andrea we are only doing 4 bf a day and no water intake - heck solids are going but very small amounts.  I sometimes do a 5th bf sneaking one in between 4.30and 5pm because they are VERY fussy somedays during that time and it's the only way I can get supper for myself.

As for the gals talking about sex therapists - first of all I think that telling yourself maybe you need to see someone is allowing you to continue to think that something is wrong with you.  Honestly.  And the longer you think something is wrong then something will feel wrong.  Ok - a little bit of history -I was married before.  ok, everyone's picked themselves up?    no children obviously.  Was married very young and then he left for someone else 5yrs later.  We rarely had sex - I mean, once a year maybe?  Had it all the time while dating but growing up in a very religious home lots of guilt and crap about all that and then by the time we were married it was a very 'mental' issue for me which turned into being physically painful.  Ok... so fast forward to meeting dh. Actually I met dh long before I was even married so I've known him forever.  But once I was on my own again and dh and I started to hang out - (I'd say date but truth is I'm still waiting for our first date - LOL)  Anyway without going in to too much detail I honestly thought it would be awkward because I'd found sex so uncomfortable and I remember him just looking at me at saying "there's nothing wrong with you.  Just relax" and things were fine from that point on.  It was just a matter of stopping myself from always thinking something was wrong... and then it was a complete turn around and I was the one always chasing him around.  In fact, funny story, he knew I was pregnant with Zoe before I did.  He even told his brother before he told ME. Said he knew something was up because I'd stopped harrassing him for sex.  And this was before I'd even missed a period AND we weren't officially trying either - just no longer preventing.

[Nikki~Nathan&Danielle]

Thanks Judy!  I think you're right about "thinking" something is wrong is actually helping create an issue. 

Right, better get off here and spend some time with Nathan before D wakes up - he is seriously lacking in attention at the moment and having major major meltdowns... :cry:

[Colesmom]

Judy-Thanks so much for posting.  It does make sense.  Kind of like the power of positive thinking. 

as for my little guy-he had another 45 minute nap ending at 1:45.  I thought he'd be able to go the distance until 6 but was just fussing like crazy so I put him down for a catnap just now.  I'll give him 30 minutes (until 4:55) then put him down a touch later than normal at 6:15.  here's hoping tonights sleep is okay as a result.

ttfn.

[sophieandhannah]

You know Judy I think you really said it.  It's funny how so many things in life can be issues of confidence.  if you are confident that what you are feeling/doing saying is ok valid etc. then it is.   And BTW I did almost fall off my chair when i read that you were marriedbefore dh...hope that's ok to say.  I really appreciated your post.
Like I said it helps so much for me to be ok with how I feel about the whole sex thing to know that I am not alone, and that once a week is actually pretty darn good.

Erin...LOL about the weekends that used to be sex and alcohol....and I MISS those days?? Not really.  Thanks for the reminder.

I am having one of those days.  It's 2:30 and I'm still in pj's...so is Sophie.  And no we did not have a tough night last night so there is really no excuse...the fly lady would not approve.  Although the bed IS made

Sophie has been waking sooo early between 5 and 6...and talking to herself in her crib (unfortunately no twin to keep her company Yes Jody someone else does this! 

It seems like she's been wanting to take her first nap earlier and earlier, (So I don't know, maybe she's been up for awhile?) which of course brings the whole day earlier, which of course means earlier bed time because the cat nap is gone again and she just literally falls asleep...at around 5:45-6pm ish.  Vicious cycle, obviously it all starts over again the next day(like Ankie's camp song)...sooooo today I tried to press the "reset" button
  
but I think I pulled the trigger a little late so who knows what will happen.  I fed her at about 5:45 then put back to bed, but not until 7...after bottle and snuggles with daddy before work.  I told myself I was only going to let her sleep until 8, then 8:30, then she finally woke at 9am.  SO now....she went back down at 10:30 up at 12:00, back down again at 2:30...hoping this will push her later tonight therefore slightly later tomorrow???
Who knows, somtimes it just doesn't seem to make that much of a difference and every day is just it's own day...routine, but not really scheduled...KWIM?
What do you guys do if your lo wakes early and you feed them and put them back down? Get them up at 7?   Do you count that as day sleep or night sleep?  Just curious.
Once again soooo jealous of the moms going to the mall today...especially if they are good malls   I am such a shopaholic, it's just not even funny.
Ankie-yay for the better night.  It sounds like you are really active. The baby weight will come off.   BTW nice visual on the peanut flap!
 :shock:  :lol:
Jody the twins are tooo cute.  I love the outfits. 
Thanks again to everyone for "entertaining" the sex topic on a thread that is supposed to be for the los.  Amazing how much we all are sharing, experience-wise from all corners of the globe.
Dh playing hockey tonight. He leaves around 8ish...that's 10est I think..I'll probably be lurking around the site if anyone else is around and wants to chat let me know...
I'll probably still be in my pj's at this rate too
Hannah

[becca24]

Morning Everyone,

There is a thread somewhere called 'ask the speech pathologist' or something similar - I think we need an 'ask the sex therapist' thread. Perhaps there is a sex therapist registered on here somewhere???

We are doing 4bf's and 3meals. Sometimes an extra bf overnight.

Last night was a bit of a shocker. Tried to feed her at 6.30, she took a small feed but mainly just mucked around. In bed 7pm. 7.45pm  head next door REVS his motorbike up SO LOUD it was unbelievable. Baby awake :evil: 8.15 Fed her again because I was worried about small feed earlier. Back to bed and doing the mmmmmmmmmmmmm noise for about 15mins. 11.30 awake again. I try to settle her with no luck she is screaming the house down. I think it's her teeth but when I pick her up she stops straight away :roll: Put her back down screaming again. Then DWhatever comes in and says I should feed her. I said I am trying to settle her back to sleep and he says 'that is not helping'  :twisted:  :twisted:  Well you don't even want to know what I said back to him, I will just say it started with "I'LL TELL YOU WHAT'S NOT HELPING......  :twisted:  :twisted:  :twisted: . :wink: I give in and feed her about 12.00. Back to bed mmmmmmmm noise for 10mins then back to screaming. I go back in turn on lamp and give her lovey. Now she is smiling and laughing  :?  :? PU/PD does not work on smiling babies so I end up sitting up for about 45mins while she is yelling IIIYAAAYAAA YAA YAA III YAAA loud enough to wake motorbike boy I hope :roll:  when she starts yawning I put her back to bed. mmmmmmmmm noise for 20mins then finally ASLEEP. :roll:

[Richelle]

Bec - ROTFLMAO, at your whole post, especially 'DWhatever'  I think you are onto something; "DW".  I don;t mean to laugh of course but you are toooo funny in telling of your woes! 

Will post in a bit, must help DU (any guess'?)

[Judy]

Micky thanks for posting the pic of Jackson - what a cutie!!!  Poor little guy   I agree with Traci - great to get this done before he was really mobile -that would have made it REALLY tough - and I'm sure it's tough as can be already.   You're a strong woman!!

[Richelle]

OMG Bec - you are funny and nice I was all about DUseless!

Micky sooo cute but poor Jack!  No kidding, Judy is right you are SO strong.

May come back for a chat Hannah - are you still up for it?

[Judy]

Blokes don't expect us to look like supermodels - in fact they find a women who has confidence in herself much more sexy than one who complains about themselves all the time KWIM? I hope that comes across the way I mean it too :?

You're exactly right!!!!!!!  My dh always says "confidence is everything" - in any arena.  Ok he doesn't *always* say it, but he does say it.  He *always* says "huh? what?" after he's startled awake on the couch at 9.15pm LOL

[Colesmom]

see Bec, this is the kind of stuff I was talking about at the chat.  You just crack me up.  Seriously!  You make me smile or laugh every time a read your posts.  You know...I finally figured out that mmmmmmmmmm sound.  Cole does it too, but not for as long.  He only does it a few minutes when he's settling down.  DWhatever    

DU?  Dear Uncle??

Cole took a catnap from 4:25-5:00 when I woke him from a crazy deep slumber.  He was not impressed with me.  Downstairs we go and I give him dinner.  He ate quite a bit and started grizzling so I made him more and he kept on grizzling.  okay okay already...gave him one boob and it's only 5:15.  was hoping to hold out so his next feed would be later than the last few nights.  Change his diaper, not so bad recently as he really likes the tube thingy of penaten to play with so he's occupied. PHEW.  Then feed him the other boob.  I couldn't believe how well he fed on both sides. Yay! It's now 5:40 and he's rubbing his eyes like mad.  I put his Grobag on and he's in bed and out like a light at 5:45!!  Man, I was hoping to stretch him a bit with the late nap but it just wasn't happening.  Hopefully he'll still be up after 6 tomorrow because we're going to a baby shower and I want him well rested.  Not to mention we might stay later than normal and either put him down there or let him stay up a bit late.  We'll see how it goes.

Judy-I can't believe I didn't post earlier about your previous marriage :shock:   How old were you, if you don't mind me asking...I know you said young...but man, it must have been really young!  Good thing I was standing with Cole when I read it...no chair to fall out of!

Hannah-not sure if DH would be impressed with another chat this week.  I'll see if I can get on later.  I'll PM you if I'm around...