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« Reply #1065 on: November 20, 2005, 17:02:54 pm »
Hey, girls!  Glad you are all doing well. 

Bec---a dog chasing kangaroos?   :shock:   Comments liek these are one of the many reasons I love this site and my global friends.  So normal for a dog to go chase a kangaroo instead of a squirrell, I guess.   8)   Too cool!!! 

Nancy, so glad to see you back and Olivia is ADORABLE!!!! 

Jody-  I can't wait to start my Christmas cards and take Ryan's picture.  I too keep all the card pics each year.  I just put them in my current album...I like yours and Ankie's idea of a separate album to put out at Christmas time.  Hmmmm maybe I should start one this year?  Again, love all the ideas I get at this site!

Andrea---can't wait for Taylor Made!  My husband keeps asking when Ryan will be able to wear the shirt I got him that says, "Don't hate me because I'm AWESOME!"   :lol:   It's a 2T, though, but dh thinks it's too funny and has asked at least 5 times if Ryan's big enough yeat.   :roll:   So, we'd obviously be game to shop.  How fun that you have a built in group of shoppers already!  (Btw, don't forget to add the website to your signature when you get it up and running...more free advertising!)

We are doing well...when I changed Ryan's diaper today I said to him, "You didn't pull a Ryan, did you?"  Okay, I am an evil mother...someday I'll have to let him know his pooping antics were internationally known.  I'm sure he'll love that!   :lol:   
Have another prenatal party this afternoon, but the party is at 2:00...right in the middle of naptime.  I told them I'd be on time, but dh will have to drop Ryan off whenever he wakes up.  It's too funny, b/c when the babes were so small one of our instructors had a 7 month old and couldn't come to the parties b/c her lo would be in the middle of naptime.   We were all like, "Too bad.  I'll never miss something for a naptime.  Just put him to bed earlier."   :D   What know-it-alls we were!

There goes the little man now..maybe he will make the party afterall!
Have a great day and I'll "see" you tonight, I hope!
Love, Kate
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« Reply #1066 on: November 20, 2005, 17:08:16 pm »
Micky -OM about the finger tips..youch is right!!  Make sure to say hey in and when you see them next!

Nancy - So nice to have you back :wink: !

Traci - I am glad that was amusing, I can't get over that that was not all that long ago and I have not gone out in 17 months!! :shock:   The girls keep bugging me about going out (none of the 'girls') have babies  :roll:  so it is difficult for them to understand my limitations or my lack of motivation to spend a day with Sophie hung over :oops:  :shock: !

Question:  Has anyone started 'disciplining' their lo's?  I posted in the toddler/discipline forum b/c I was at a loss where to post the question. 

Ok, the history is that Sophie blows VERY loud and aggressive raspberries when she is annoyed.  It is generally very funny and I am glad that she has started to communicate instead of cry but the problem is that she will do this when she has had enough food or does not like what I try to feed her ending with the person feeding her with a face full of food :shock: !  She is also commando crawling and about to crawl any day and I know I need to be able to set limits but what? how? when?

When she does the spitting food thing I say "sophie that is not nice, please don't"  and I put my fingers over her mouth but hate doing this, it feels like I am being mean. like I am gaggig her or something for teying to communicate.  I really don't kow what to do, maybe buy one of those plastic protective masks like a welders mask and let her keep at it? :wink:  8)

Anyway, that is my question of the day.....
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« Reply #1067 on: November 20, 2005, 18:31:08 pm »
Richelle,  first off I think everyone has to take whichever approach to discipline feels right to them.  My approach would be to take that as Sophie's way of communicating to you that she's no longer hungry -since you feel she's only doing this when she's done or doesn't like her food.  So, since she can't say "no thanks mom" or "seriously?  You expect me to EAT this crap?" :) you could just say whatever it is you'd like her to say some day and then give her what she likes or stop feeding.  "all done? ok then"

As for crawling... see I've found that a constant harping of no no no,don't touch that... is just annoying to me and to them so I just remove or reposition things I don't want them into.  This way we can live somewhat less stressed lives by at least not having to worry about what the kids are into.  Other things I don't want to move and aren't breakable I let them investigate and then move on to something else with them.  I think if you don't want them throwing all the cd's on the floor then you either have to move them OR engage them in something more interesting.  I think expecting children under 3 to stop doing something interesting like tossing cd's about and to find themselves something else to do is setting everyone up for failure and frustration.  It just ain't gonna happen - in my experience.  AND, this is where I will veer from 'the norm' I feel that a) my children didn't ASK to be born b) it's not their fault they're too young to get a job and pay the mortgage - does this mean that the home is LESS theirs?  I don't believe so.  This is their home too, their lives and who wants to live a life being nagged at all day long and told NO to almost everything interesting in their own home?   

Again, just my opinion so discard it if it doesn't fit with your parenting preferences.

And I know for myself it's easy to nag all day at the kids when I'm tired.  Gosh it can be very draining somedays... but it also seems the days I'm on them more the more they do things I'd rather they didn't do.

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« Reply #1068 on: November 20, 2005, 18:39:02 pm »
Okay here is a general reply to the crawling comments... The girls are scooting around a tiny bit. They get up on their knees but cant seem to move?? I guess crawling is around the corner? :shock:

As for cute shirts... we picked up t-shirts yesterday that say:

"My mommy is the prettiest"  :oops:
"My daddy is hansome" :wink:

I LOVE THEM!

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« Reply #1069 on: November 20, 2005, 18:42:37 pm »
Thanks Judy - What a great way to look at things!  I love the idea that it is their house too.  I can't imagine nagging her all day and hope I won't as you are right, how in the heck can I expect a baby to understand where I am coming from?

I suppose I have this silly image (hopefullly like some of you 1st timers out there) that Sophie will be the most well behaved little girl with proper manners ect... :oops:  :roll: so silly I know but how can I help myself from kidding myself?  It is all going by so fast I really don't want to waste my time with Sophie locked in one struggle after another - thanks again or the perspective Judy!

By the way Nancy - Olivia is adorable - do you have her sitting in a planter pot?
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« Reply #1070 on: November 20, 2005, 18:50:24 pm »
Richelle, yep I take the same approach as Judy to blowing raspberries.  If she does it, it's only when eating and towards the end of the meal, I choose not to say anything, not make eye contact about it (I've even asked Nathan not to laugh a couple of times in a boring way so it doesn't stir him up to do it more  :roll: ) while she's doing it and then with a smile on my face just annouce "ok, you're all full, that was a yummy meal wasn't it" or something to that effect. 

I also put away a lot of things when Nathan was at this stage, it just wasn't worth the hassle of repeatedly saying no over and over, stressed me out more, distraction is really the only other thing that I found worked at this age - CD's were put away for over a year.  DVD/CD's are still preyed on in this house with Nathan at 2.5 and that is with them now in his reach (ie the novelty just hasn't worn off) - I've just got to accept if he can get them, then it's my fault if they get scratched.

Well Danielle is no where near crawling or anything, she's flapping around a lot, but that's about it.

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« Reply #1071 on: November 20, 2005, 19:04:56 pm »
I keep forgetting to post about the onesies!  I have 2 for Sophie one says "i eat dirt"  and the other says "I am NOT a boy"  They have all sorts of crazy ones at a boutique here, baby towels that have crazy do's and don't about bathing a baby on them ect ect...- very funny :lol: !  I am excited for your website Andrea, will you ship to Cayman?
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« Reply #1072 on: November 20, 2005, 19:42:57 pm »
oh gosh you guys...you are all so supportive I love coming here.
THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH FOR YOUR INTEREST AND SUPPORT! :D

all this talk makes me so anxious, but patience is a virtue right?  So last week we took 10/30 of our designs to the screen printer to get started on.  He says he can get about 3 done a week (so about 3 weeks before all 10 are done) :evil: .  teh initial set up is the hardest and longest because he has to make all teh screens, and then after that it will be a snap.  but I am still excited with our progress!

so like I said, lots of cute and sassy sayings...mainly on black and white and gray clothing (think kind of edgy rock and roll type of baby).  There will be some pink and blue t's, but I want it to be very different from teh typical baby clothes you see, and also very basic.  don't we as adults love black and white clothes the best after all?

so thanks again...and yes, we will ship all over this great big world!!!

Bec-btw, how funny is that...dog chasing kangaroos?  :)  LOL!!!

lvoe the pics too Jody, Bec (cute ne avatar) and Nancy-welcome back!!!
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« Reply #1073 on: November 20, 2005, 21:36:39 pm »
Ladies, I need help.

Arwyn is now biting me hard! I tell her "no" and she doesn't let go, just looks at me and bites down harder. I can't rip my nipple outta there because that would KILL! Anyhow, as a result, she is not getting as much milk as she should and is now seriously constipated.

I tell her "no" each time she bites but... it is not working. This morning, I progressed to saying "no" and poking her cheek lightly. It doesn't work either. She won't take a bottle, this biting while nursing thing is hampering her from getting enough milk, she is messing seriously with the milk supply... and it is reducing me to frustrated tears.
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« Reply #1074 on: November 20, 2005, 21:43:52 pm »
Hey ladies!!!  (so Beastie Boys :))
SO...where to begin?
Welcome back Nancy.  I say don't worry about catching up if you can't just jump right back in :)
Judy dh and I loved your comments on discipline.  I definately agree.  Although I am sure it will be a challenge, as everything else has been.
I too would love a point by point on pu pd...I want one for my friend when I go back to work (and dh could probably use it too).
I have a mini dh rave since I am usually ranting...I thought I'd take this opportunity to rave...
Anyhow, last night after dd was asleep, I went out for a few groceries.  When I got to the store, I realized I had left my wallet at home    :oops: How long can I use the mommy-brain excuse??? Anyhow, I came back to get it, I was on the phone this whole time too, so I came in the door, quietly said to dh, "It's me I forgot my wallet" and he very quietly said back "OK"..I thought he sounded a bit strange but figured maybe he had fallen asleep.  So I left.. When I got home he explained that Sophie had woken up screaming the house down (Love that expression :)) and he went in to her picked her up bounced her (argh!) and she let out a huge burp, so he treid to put her back down but she started screaming again so he picked her back up and walkwed with her for a minute until she started to settled.  As he was putting her back down again, he said she puked all over the bed!  So, he had to take the sheets off etc, then  put her back down...anyhow, I guess I came homw in the middle of all of this...I was amazed he didn't say "Hey..please stay and help!"  He's pretty self-sufficient/confident with dd, I like that. 
Ankie, adorable pictures of Arwyn and you too!!! SHe looks so much like both of you.  Too cute.
Jody, was it you who said dh works for Roush racing?  DH is a huge fan of Nascar!!! Actually Brendan kinda got into it and sucked daddy in with him...dh is actually on the comp upstairs watching the updates..poor guy no cable here so he cdan't watch the race :(
Traci, I'm game on the address thing too....although I haven't gotten myself togtehr yet to do the cards/pics...I think I am going to have Shutterfly  do the whole kaboodle.
Hey ANkie, question for you, and any one else who has input.  We have been working with Sophie on the signs for milk and all done and more.  But mostly milk.  She has started to do the milk sign but it sweems like she kind of does it all the time not necessarily just when she wants milk.  Is this normal?  Do you think she actually knows what she's doing or is she just clenching her hand?  We try to reinforce it when she does it by oferring her milk  or at least showing it to her??  I don't really know how to do it though because we have been doing water in the sippy cup and I don't really want to give her a bottle while she's in her highchair if she asks for milk....anyhow...any suggestions? Does Arwyn sign for milk even when she doesn't really want it? what do you do?
OK, I guess that's it for now.
Talk to you later ladies.
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« Reply #1075 on: November 20, 2005, 21:47:13 pm »
Ankie, we posted at the same time.  I am so sorry!! I don't know if I really have any good advice since I am not bfing.  Can you pump while she's on strike to at least keep the supply going??  Also, just for whatever it's worth, I have had times when I have pumped a lot less and milk supply has decreased, but then I started pumping more frequently and it increased again, a little slowly but eventually it was back.  SO don't worry about supply.
Hopefully the others can give some good advice about the biting.  Take care sweetie. Hugs to you.
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« Reply #1076 on: November 20, 2005, 22:03:25 pm »
Hi

Ankie - have you posted in the breastfeeding forum about the biting? I am sure you will get some great advice from someone there. I did read a thread about biting on there some time ago I think :?

My opinion on the dicipline thing is I think sometimes people use too many words. For example a friend of mine has two boys and they really are out of control. Someone suggested putting a list of rules up and if one rule is broken they have time out or whatever. She said she is not having much success with it. Anyway, the other day I was at her place and she ask me what I thought of the rule chart. The first rule says 1. Do what Mummy tells you to do the first time she tells you to do it :?:? :? :? What I plan to do with Halle (and I could be eating my own words later  :roll: ) is similar to the principals I use when teaching a horse manners - that is, ignore the 'wrong' behaviour and reward the right. That is a really simple way of putting it but the long explaination would take me all day.

LOL about the kangaroo thing. I live near the bush so it's pretty normal around here to see them. My Grandfather like to eat them but I can't bring myself to try it  :wink:

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« Reply #1077 on: November 20, 2005, 22:41:01 pm »
hey guys...can't stay away today but seriously should be doing something about this house.

First Hannah, way to go DH!!!  that actually is a proud moment because a lot of guys would have blocked the door from you leaving  :lol:   Also, I think it was you that asked a few pages back about if they wake early for a feed (say 6 am), do you put themback down?  Since Taylor has been doing this for almost 4 weeks now  :x , I've jsut kind of been giving up and going with the flow and after the feed she always falls back to sleep, and it is considered part of night sleep...not a nap.  HTH

Erin-we have the same thing going on over here with sniffles, loss of appetite and tons of drooling.  I think it is teething, but lordy who knows right?  she doesn't seem like she has a cold, but what do i know?

Ankie-cute pics by the way!!!  a couple of months back when Taylor was TUGGING REALLY HARD on me the ladies in bf forum said to ignore it.  don't say ouch or react at all and it will go away.  it did for a while, but now she is grabbing my nipple with her little sharp fingernails! :shock:  :evil:   continuing to ignore, but very hard to do so!  HTH.

Discipline--hmmm.  what do you all think about putting the stuff away that is very valuable/sentimental and of course dangerous and leaving everything else out?  kinda like what Judy said.  I have seen my niece who is 20 months be barracaded in multiple gates around the house in the means of baby proofing.  now they can't really go to anyone else's house w/o both parents there to watch because the kid wants to get into everything...it's almost like she hasn't learned her limits because everything has just been taken away KWIM???  Am I being naive as well?  Love to hear your thoughts Nikki, Naomi and Judy.

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« Reply #1078 on: November 20, 2005, 23:06:46 pm »
Thanks for the ealry waking info, that was me. 
Ankie--you asked about the For the Kids CD?? It is produced by Tom Gates and Mark Jowett.
Try http://www.musicforthekids.com

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« Reply #1079 on: November 20, 2005, 23:12:34 pm »
Hi Ladies

Ankie - love the pics!  What a cutie.  Can't help with the biting thing, sorry.  Fraser still has no teeth.  He does claw my nipple like Andrea said - I just try and hold his little hands away.  I have read suggestions to break the latch, wait a moment and then relatch.  Don't know if that is successful or not though.

Nancy - great to see you back here!

Traci - I'll send my address if everyone is going to... Just let us know

Lots more to comment on but I'm a little pre-occupied.  I really need your help..

We are having really serious sleep problems.  It is taking us over an hour to put Fraser down at night, he is waking 2 or 3 times for up to an hour at a time, and he is waking for the day at 5.00am.  We had a grand total last night of 8.5 hours sleep (well, Fraser did.  DH and I got about 3 hours)  I am seriously losing the plot.  I would love the PU/PD tip sheet Andrea if you are putting one together.  But from those of you who have been successful with PU/PD - could you give me pointers please.  On the couple of occassions I have tried it Fraser has screamed hysterically for at least an hour (or until I have given up) and has vomited everywhere.  Clearly either I'm doing something wrong or Fraser is just not suited to PU/PD.  Anyway, I'm nearly at the end of my rope here - I think I am about 1 night away from CC  :cry:  :cry: I can't cope.  Please help me.

Thanks friends
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