Brandy - Hey there. I am so sorry things are rough right now but you have definitely come to the right place with finding this site. You are a strong person to have been able to deal with sleep deprivation for so long. You are definitely correct in saying that your husband needs to take care of the baby some nights so that you can get some uninterrupted sleep. So stick to your guns about that. It sounds as if you are depressed and that is sooooo very understandable. I would talk to your doctor and see about maybe getting started on anti-depressants. I am on anti-depressants and feeling like myself again. I don't know how you feel about medications but it is nothing to be ashamed of AT ALL. It is only after I went on meds that my husband realized that he needed to pitch in more with the baby.
With the sleeping problems your baby is experiencing, it seems he is dependent upon the swing, the breast, or your presence in order to sleep. I do not know how familiar you are with Tracy Hogg's books and techniques, but the swing, breast, and sleeping with you are all "props" because these things are what he associates with sleep. So if they are not there, he does not know how to sleep. What I would do would be to get Tracy Hogg's book The Baby Whisperer Solves All of Your Problems. Since your son is 5 months old, you can use one of her techniques called pick up put down. There is a board on this website dedicated to pick up put down as well but definitely get the book as you will learn so much and understand that you are soooo not alone and that there are solutions. It seems to be the closest thing to a user's manual for babies in my opinion! :lol:
I don't know if I have helped you but I know that you will find lots of support on this site. You will get through this and your baby will become a better sleeper. Sending you lots of hugs and support.