I had the same problem with my little one. Bedtime and naps were very hard. I would be over him shushing and patting him forever (sometimes 45 min). This went on for a few months. Now Ryan is 12 months old and he loves to go down for a nap. I can read the signs he is ready for a nap, dim the lights, play his favorite cd, give him his blanket, and walk out. He goes to sleep on his own! He will usually sleep from 1 1/2 to 2 hrs (he still takes two naps). He also sleeps through the night. I am not going to say it was easy to get here, but it was so worth all the hard work! When you are about to pull your hair out, or your back is about to give out from leaning over the bed - just remember it will be worth it down the road! Good luck!