Help DS wont feed unless i lay down!!!!

[wannabe+]

After church yesterday i gave DS a feed in the car on my lap as i normally do when i am out and he needs a feed.  Then DH and I went shopping and it was his feed time when we got to the shops so i tried to feed him in the car before we went in.  He really fought me and cried.  He refused the breast so we thought that maybe we will leave him till he really crys for a feed.  We put him in his stoller and went shopping.  He slept the whole time and when we left it was his next feed time again as he feeds every 2 hours and I tried to feed in the car again before we left.  He again refused the breast and then slept all the way home.  At home i tried to feed him again as he was 6 hours past his last feed but he again refused and fought me. 

As soon as i lay down with him in the bed he feed though which was a relief.  Then last night i feed laying down in bed again and this morning too.  I tried to feed him just now sitting up as i normally do with him on a pillow and he again fought me!!!  I had to lay down again to feed him.  What is going on!!??  It is almost as if he does not want to feed unless i am laying down with him.  This is fine if i am at home but when i am out i have nowhere to lay down.  What can i do??

When i sit up with him when i am out obviously i dont have a pillow to support him but when i am home i put him on a pillow and feed unless it is night time when i lay down and feed him.  It is almost as if he is rejecting the breast when i sit up as maybe he thinks it is going to be uncomfortable like when i am out and dont have  a pillow.  He has been fine with it all until now.

[Luisasmum]

I used to have to feed lying down too. Not because my dd wanted to though, I just found it easier, especially after my caesar. All I did when I went out was express a couple of bottles and bottle fed her. But if your ds won't take the bottle that's out of the question. He must be very new if he feeds every 2 hours. Maybe the flow is slower when you lay down and that's why he prefers it? I hope that as he grows he'll become a little less fussy.

Good luck!

[wannabe+]

Well he is relatively new.  He is 9 weeks old.  I was hoping that he would start feeding every 3 - 4 hours but he does not seem to budge from 2.  Maybe i should start that as a topic and ask for advice on that too.

I managed to get him to feed just now on the pillow sitting up finally.  I just tried to make light of the situation and played with him a bit on the pillow first.  Thank goodness!

[annamum]

My dd used to have the same issue some time ago. After she was born we tried all positions to nurse and she was OK with any arrangement. But later, I think, around 4th month, I discovered how convenient it was to nurse while lying down and I ended up with a baby that associated each feed with lying down only. It was horrible! Slowly, slowly I started working on introducing back other positions and eventually she learnt to nurse anywhere and in any position. She is spirited and she is/was also very distracted nurser, I had to avoid places with things/people that were new to her because she would just pull from my breast to observe the new scenery. That means I couldn't nurse in public. I had to nurse in a car or in a fitting room.