My lo is 16 weeks and up until he was 13 weeks he was taking all naps in the swing, and sleeping well. Though he'd sometimes wake up at the 45-min mark, he'd go back to sleep if the swing was moving. He slept in his crib at night, though by the time he reached it he was asleep after a late-night feed.
I decided he needed to take all naps in his crib, and as he was over 17 lbs and sleeping past the 3 h mark, I switched him to the 4-hour feed (gradually). I swaddled him (always have) and made sure we did wind-down and that the room was dark. For the first few days he cried (tired cry only) and would drift off after about 0-10 min of crying. But he woke crying hard after 45 min. At first this was only for the first and third naps, but now it's the middle one as well.
Over the 2.5 weeks I've been trying this, he's started crying almost as I start to head up the stairs to bed! The only way he'll fall asleep is if I hold a paci in his mouth (he can't hold it in himself, though we've tried to teach him for months) until his eyes close.
When he wakes up at the 45 min mark, I repeat the above with almost no success, and put him in the swing until the next feed, and he falls alseep.
I've tried wake to sleep (with little success) but I've also got a 24-month old and I simply won't leave her unsupervised and besides that it's not fair that the only time she has alone with mom is spent waiting for mom to put babe to sleep!
For my own sanity he needs to sleep longer that 45 min, but I find it hard to justify spending huge amounts of time getting him to do this when my other child needs me too.
Suggestions or comments?