Thank you for this post!!!! I have always had my kids on EASY, I just didn't know it until I read the book, they always ate, played and I put them down about 2 hours from the time they ate, then I read the book, figured I was doing this so I could easilty implement the plan to get my daughter (9 weeks) to take better naps. She was great until 5 1/2 weeks, napping every 2 hours for 2 hours and waking once during the night to eat (anywhere from 2 -5 am) then 5 1/2 weeks it all went to he**. She was diagnosed with reflux and is on zantac since 10-31 and her night feedings are great, I do a df and then she gets up at 5:30 or so...(I always did this with my other 2 as well)...her naps got better and now again this week, since I have tried the pat/shush method and doing the 20 min. it seems she is falling back to cat naps!!! I stand there for 20 min and then she only sleeps another 20, so then I was going in at 45 to try to do the wake to nap thing...and forget it...then next thing I know it is time to feed her again...so yesterday we couldn't calm her down..so I just put her in the crib, she cried another 5 min and went to sleep for another 45 min....I believe I let my other 2 cio at times and that is how they learned to sooth themselves, but then I feel bad, but I cannot fight her...she gets like mad and arches her back, digs her head in, throws her arms back and kicks her legs and it is hard to try to comfort her like that, and as for her not having the ability to concentrate on crying while I shush her, well, she seems to be able to do all 3 things quite well !!! then I have a cranky ed off baby to deal with while before I would get her up early and just walk with her or put her in the swing for a couple minutes or whatever I could to hold her off to the next feed, unless she was frantic for food, but I also had both my boys on a 3 1/2 - 4 hour schedule by now too, and she is just starting to do that and so I really don't want to start feeding her again before 3 1/2 hours unless it is a growth spurt...so anyway, the other books say don't let them cio until they are 4 months old, and I do try to go to her, pick her up and sooth her, she just won't let me, so then I let her cry for 5 min. go in pat her or try to sooth her again and if she won't let me I put her back down and yesterday within 5 min. she was back to sleep (after we tried to calm her for 20 min.) so I am giving up the pat/shush stuf and staying in the room for 20 min. patting etc. I would rather have a full 45 min. of things I can do without her then just 15 - 20 and then have a screaming child. She self sooths at night, she just needs to realize she can do the same thing during the day. I am going to put the cd player on for her, I have a fan and the tv on in my room at night and she used to sleep in the den in front of the tv (my house is open and I want her to learn to sleep with noise around her...I have 2 boys too so she needs to block the other noises and sleep) so if I have some music on in the background maybe she'll do better at nap time....I will see, but I cannot continue the patting and all it makes me more frustrated..I am going to do what I did with my others, I let them cry for awhile to see if they would calm themselves and eventually they did, one figured out how to put the binki back in and my other found his thumb, she has put herself to sleep using her thumb, I watched her and at night (7 goes upan dthen I wake at 9:30 and 12:30 to feed) she has her thumb..I also have her sleep on her belly, she does better this way, always has, so did myother 2, and she does turn her head side to side, but with reflux I think it is better to sleep that way. I do nurse her and have supplemented formula as well, and she does seem tohave some problems wtih gas and poopoing afterwards, but i need her to do this as when I go back to work, my dh will be having to give her a bottle and I cannot seem to pump enough bm for her, so she needs to acclimate to the formula...sorry this is long but I needed to vent, I have found that by doing this method, I have enjoyed her so much less and am more stressed out...I am going back to my own common sense and trying to trust my own thoughts about it rather then get help from all these baby books, maybe they work for some, but in reading all the messages here, everyone seems to go thru the 45 min. cat nap phase and everyone seems to have problems with this method, it looks as if it works less then it works...and beleive me I have followed it and I am consistent!!!! but I don't think my patting her is showing her how to self sooth it is making me the new prop and when I leave she wakes up...I cannot be the prop with 2 other kids, so if she cries, finds her thumb and makes herself feel better then that is what will help her sleep and then she'll be happier....I know the crying isn't hurting her, she is fed, dry and fine, so she is just tired and her crying is just asking for some way to put herself to sleep and she won't let me sooth her to do it, so she will have to learn herself I guess....thanks for letting me vent, I have been so frustrated since trying this method and it seems as if everyone changes it or ends up rocking etc until 3 months anyway, so she was so much easier to get to sleep when I was doing that.....thanks for letting me vent...by the way what do you do for gassiness???I was using gripe water until I started the zantac....