Theresa, I read your post on the other board too and I just want you to know that you are not alone. My dd is doing some major night wakings, more so recently, but she's never slept thru. She used to go from her bedtime around 7pm to 2am feed, then sleep till at least 5am before waking for paci. But no, those days are long gone. Last night I was woken every hour from midnight until 4am. Then 2x that hour, and then 5 am took 1 hour of holding to settle her. She finally went to sleep and slept till 8, at which time she woke looking like she hadn't slept all night. She was so miserable after getting up that I put her down for a nap at 9:20am. I have also had to hide out pretty much in her room after about 30 min or so into the nap, until at least the first hour is up. Rachel was swaddled until about a month ago, and I think a lot of this waking is due to her still adjusting. I was forced kind of, into weaning her, long story. But I feel the same way you do, I would have swaddled her till she was 18. Without the swaddle, I have had to adjust too. Holding her is different, arms and legs are moving all over the place. It's made me a lot more frustrated in general. However, I think you have done a lot less accidental parenting compared to some (me). Your son doesn't use a pacifier, which is a major deal. The swaddling, well, if it's not a problem for you, then it's not for him. I would definitely cut down on the feedings at night though, and I think at least from what it sounds like if you can get a handle on him eating during the day, the rest will work itself out. It sounds developmental to me. I think some stuff is going on there with DD too, because sometimes things happen that just can't be explained.