Sorry for starting another thread about my DS, but this is a bit more general, and not following on from my last posts. (Sorry also if any bits are repeated from my previous post)
My wife and I have gone over Tracey's books, and I have read the sleep interview posted here and now we are both utterly confused as to what we should be doing. It doesn't help that Luka has now been overtired and not sleeping well for about 38 hours. We would really appreciate it if someone could lay out in simple terms what we should be doing.
Our understanding of EASY is as follows (with some questions which I feel are pertinant to our particular bundle of joy).
1. Luka is 5 weeks old so should roughly be on a 3 hour cycle.
2. When he wakes up in the morning, we feed him. This will take about 40 minutes to an hour.
3. We try and do some activity, but invariably this will only be enough time for winding (which we are terrible at), and a nappy change before the first yawn.
4. We take him upstairs to bed, swaddle him, hold him for about 5 minutes and put him in his crib.
5. In theory, we shh/pat for a while (hopefully 20 minutes) and he drifts off to sleep for an hour or two.
So that's the theory, am I correct so far?
In practice, things fall apart at stage 4.
- Should we swaddle him straight away or do something else to calm him down?
- When we do swaddle him, he usually starts crying so we have to go straight to shh/pat
- After he quietens down we continue to shh/pat until he looks like he is asleep. Is this correct? At what point should we stop, as we have done shh/pat for over an hour before and he still looked unsettled. Being bent over his basket for so long is doing some damage to our back (which were never that great before hand).
So some follow up questions:
a. If he has done an hours feed, no activity and it has taken an hour and half to get him to sleep, do we wake him in 30 minutes time for his next feed?
b. If he wakes after 15 minutes do we feed him or try and get him back to sleep?
c. If it gets to the state he is in now, where he is too tired to eat (he falls asleep at the breast and can't be woken), and is too tired to sleep when not at the breast, what on earth do we do to get back on track?
The interview was somewhat confusing as we thought that the EASY system was tied to clock watching and doing things at a certain time (infact Tracy states this exact thing), yet in the interview she says that with regards question a, we should wake him, question b it depends on hunger ques, and question c goes unanswered.
Any clarifications would be greatly appreciated as the confusion is starting to stress us both out somewhat, which isn't good for anyone.
Oh, I just remembered another question:
- We fell off the wagon today as Luka had been screaming for an hour straight I suggested that we used a sling to calm him down then took him for a walk in the park. There is a fear that this lack of consistancy will undo the work we have done so far. Can someone please confirm that we haven't messed things up completely (even if it's a lie), as parts of Tracy's interview would suggest that we have put ourselves back at square one!