Thanks for your advice. It does help to take a step back and break it down by steps:) Eating every 3 hours doesn't seem to be a problem for us, which is good. Looks like I should start working on the naps as she doesn't always like to fall asleep independently. She would much rather have me rock her and then lay her down :?
Sydney is a very touchy baby as well. I found EASY to work well for me in the afternoons, but come evening, things can get very hairy. I can only seem to get her to take one of the cluster feeds, as she is way too tired for the next cluster feed and will only take half of her bottle. I then have problems waking her up for the df as well, sometimes not able to
feed her at all for the df as she is just OUT.
I am wondering if she is just too little yet (4 weeks yesterday) to be able to sleep longer than 3 or 4 hours at night, as she wakes for feedings. For example, here is our routine from last night:
*usually eats around 3-4 ounces per feeding
E - cluster feed at 6:00 pm - 3 1/2 ounces
E - cluster feed at 8:00 pm - 2 ounces (couldn't keep her awake)
E - df at 10 pm - 3 ounces
E - woke at 1:30 am for a feeding - 3 ounces
E - woke at 5:30 am for a feeding - gave her her dummy to see if that would satisfy her, but it didn't. Ended up giving her 3 1/2 ounces at 6:00 am which started our day. (normally try to start around 7:00 am).
I too have been overwhelmed with trying to get it right. At first, (thanks to raging hormones) I just cried cuz I thought I was failing at EASY. But then I realized that my little guy (who's 5 weeks old & has been on 3 hr EASY since day 1) is a touchy baby and is easily over stimulated or over tired...and has a hard time staying asleep. So, as a result...he grunts and fights against the swaddle and takes forever to settle to sleep. Or he wakes 30-40 minutes into a sleep. Forget putting him down awake...we've been holding him until he falls asleep. We've just been focusing on eating every 3 hrs and helping him back to sleep. Oh ya...and shhh/pat doesn't work on all babies. He likes just his paci and a hand on his chest. And we haven't been able to do the cluster feeds since he usually just fell asleep by the time the cluster feeds should happen. We've just stuck to 3 hrs until 9:30pm...then he wakes around 1:30-2:00 am for a feed and again at 5:30 am. It's been really tough figuring this all out and of course who can be an objective problem solver on little sleep! haaa
Our babies sound identical!