Hi There,
can you start by telling me her routine including Awake times. that is where I'd like to start so I can get a sense if she is not getting enough or too much stimulation.
Also, what is her nap routine, and are her sleepy cues easy to read?
Has she or is she hitting her 3 month growth spurt which can also turn things upside down.
pat/shush "by the book" does not work on all babies, especally spirtied ones. Sometimes you have to tweak pat/shush to work for your lo, such as firm hand pressure with just shushing, or no shushing at all. The key is to find some way to calm your lo down and keep them calm while they learn to fall asleep from an awake state in their crib, KWIM?
When Taylor was 12 weeks our windown was about 20 minutes long. So when she started to show sleepy cues (usually after apx. 45 mintues), I would take her to the room, put her on her changing table and change diaper. Talk to her calmly and gently, close the curtains, turn on the white noise machine, hold her and have her look at her chandelier (she is a big fan of lights), and then into bed. This lasted about 15-20 minutes start to finish.
I also remember that right around 12 weeks is when nap and bed time got turned upside down after about 3 weeks of smooth sailing, and apparently this is very normal. Pat/shush no longer worked at all, and we had to move to PU/PD to settle her. I am not saying you need to try that yet withyour lo. Let's first see her routine and if we can figure her out.
Andrea