I thought I had worked out a schedule that DH, DD and I could live with, but it's not working and I'm wondering if I'm missing something obvious, so any advice is appreciated. Sorry to be so long too!
DD is 13 months and does fairly well with two naps each day, one about 10:30 for 45 minutes and one at about 1:30 or so for about 1 1/2 hours. She starts getting very cranky and yawning early, though, even by 5:30, so she ends up in bed about 7:30 every night lately.
Brief aside, we have been getting her back to her own bed since she had terrible reflux for a long time and slept with us. It's going okay for naps, but late night is the worst! We're on our fourth week getting her into not coming to our bed, but we had three days out of town with relatives that threw everything off.
So, she wakes about every 15 - 30 minutes for the first hour to be re-tucked in (though we have been very stringent about not letting her fall asleep before leaving the room, so not sure why this is still happening - although she does fall asleep immediately after reinserting paci and putting her back on her pillow). It's about 3/4 a.m. that's the worst!!! She wakes screaming and stands in her crib, throws out the paci and wails until someone comes. We have been doing PD a lot to some avail, but it takes literally 2 hours every night since we started 4 weeks ago. And last night it was useless as she wouldn't even calm down with leaving the room for a bit or having someone stay there with her. She just wanted our bed as she kept pointing towards the door.
The schedule I thought would work has me waking at 6 a.m. to work out, then when DD wakes, which is about 6:30 or 7, I change her, get her a bottle, and she gets to go into our bed and stay with DH for 30 min to an hour as he wakes up (he's a very slow morning person).
I thought this was going well for the first few times, but now she's waking and not going back to sleep for hours and that throws off our whole day. Is she getting too much sleep going back to bed with DH? It's usually only for an hour, but if she kept us up late, it can last more like two hours as DH refuses to get less than his 8 hours. Maybe she's sleeping too late and then getting less nap time and more tired earlier than normal? I'm just not sure.
I know she can't tell time, so explaining that she can come into our bed when it's morning is useless (though I have tried just in case). Am I sabotaging things by even letting her do that? Part of it is for me since my morning workout is my only time alone all day and DH wakes up slowly, so he's not willing to get out of bed to hang out with her at that time of day.
If you have suggestions, I'm all ears!
By the way, I originally thought DD was textbook-touchy, but after alleviating the reflux, I now think she is actually Spirited-Touchy. Not sure if that makes a difference in anyone's responses, but thought I'd add.
Thanks!
Aimee
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