Hi again Freddie
It helps to know you are not alone does it not?
Naps are still hit and miss with Mia and I've got a feeling they always will be. She is a textbook/spirited baby and the spirited part applies mainly to her naps!
I know just what you mean about whether to intervene or not. This weekend I've gone in each time she's stirred at 45 mins and stuck her dummy back in which has worked, although 1 time I heard her over the babycom and crept in just to see her self resettling herself and drifting back off. I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't, because it seems when I don't go in to resettle her she comes into full wakefulness and starts gurgling and cooing - and when I do finally go in she all smiles and kicking like mad cos she's pleased to see me so I have to get her up!
I don't know if I should be talking about this here and hope I don't get ticked off by the moderators but have you heard of the Gina Ford routines? To be honest they work much better on Mia then E.A.S.Y. I've come to realise that dd cannot sleep for 2 hours after being up for 2 hours in the morning after a full 12 hours sleep. I think she hasn't been awake long enough to need that amount of sleep and so only goes for 45 minutes. But then at lunchtime after being up another 1.5-2 hours she will go for 1.5-2.5 hours between 12 and 3pm and then another 45 minutes in the late afternoon as she is doing now.
I've started to give Mia a top up feed before each nap and that seems to help too.
Freddie - I know just what you mean too when you say you feel like the worst mom in the world. That's exactly how I feel on occasion but I think they very fact we are all chatting in this way to one another about our LO's shows that we all just want the very best for them.
I'm 31 and the last out of my group of friends to have a baby. When I talk to them about Mias 45 minute naps they look at me as if I'm mad. I get responses like "Alex never slept at all in the day" and "Babies will sleep when they need it" "Let her sleep when she wants for how long she wants" "My 2 both screamed themselves to sleep at night they were so overtired".
To be honest I don't know if their "advice" makes me feel better or worse. On the one hand I think I'm turning into a 45 minute nap obsessive but I am learning to roll with it a bit more. As she gets older she gets easier plus the fact she can stay awake longer too. I really think in 3 months time we won't be worrying about their naps - it'll be somethink else much more trying!!!!!