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« on: December 08, 2005, 15:33:06 pm »
I have two things I am dealing with for my five month old.  Sorry so long, but I REALLY need help. 

#1 - I need to get him to fall asleep on his own
#2 - I would like to establish the EASY routine with him

Which do I start first, or do I do it all at once? 

Today started out great....

7:30 - 8:00 - wake up and bf
8:00 - 9:00 - play
9:00 - up to nursery to get into a relaxing mode, listening to soft music in the nursery, and rocking on my lap in the rocking chair
9:30 - attempt one - put him down drowsy in the crib.  As soon as that happened he immediately woke up and looked at me and started screaming.  I picked him up and reassured him and put him back down.  He continued screaming, so I picked him up and rocked him in the chair on my lap once more. 
9:45 - attempt two and three - drowsy and down in crib, once again he became fully awake and screaming
9:50 - decide to let him cry it out...at my wits end  This time he screams, freaks out even more and has the hardest cry I have ever heard him utter. 
10:00 - I bf to make sure he isn't hungry, he takes a whole one
10:15 - falls asleep in my arms
10:20 - put him down in the crib and this is where I am right now

I feel terrible....can anyone lend some advice.  Oh yah, and the third thing is his naps are only 45 min long at best (another hurdle we have to fix). 

So do I start the EASY first, or get him to fall asleep on his own first?

Help!   :shock:
Tara
Mom to Chase
07/06/05


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« Reply #1 on: December 08, 2005, 16:38:19 pm »
I am no expert, but I will give you what I know. Maybe implementing one at a time would be easier for both of you. I would start the EASY first, only because that will get him used to the routine (maybe give it 2 weeks of this). Then try to implement the putting down to sleep drowsy. In the meantime, how are you putting him down to sleep now, breastfeeding, waiting until he is sleeping? Do what you are doing now, but slowly decrease the amount of time you would put him to sleep doing it. For example, my daughter was initially falling asleep in my arms, then I would put her in her crib, but slowly I progressed to waiting until the breathing relaxed and laying her down with eyes glassed over, then I progressed to drowsy signals and laying her down, she cried a bit but fell asleep after 3 minutes, now I lay her down, she yawns, lets a yelp out and then falls asleep.  I think doing both at once might be overwhelming for both of you and it might feel like you want to give up. If you do one at a time you might get more progress from your lo. Just my two cents, I hope I haven't confused you. :)
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« Reply #2 on: December 08, 2005, 17:59:23 pm »
Thanks I will give the EASY a try.  Although, right now my ds is eating every two hours it seems like, which means that I have to feed him before the activity and then right before sleep.  (unless i cut the activity short to be able to put him down before he eats again) but he isn't really tired that soon. 

With your daughter, how long did it take you to transition her from falling asleep in your arms to putting her down with the glassy look?  I have tried putting him down with the glassy look and he freaks out. 

Just now we tried with nap #2...up we went to the nursery to get relaxed and calm with some music....was rocking him to sleep in my arms, just when I thought he was asleep, put him in the crib and he started screaming.  Then I bf him and he took a whole one (last time he ate was 10:30, now it is 12:30) And now we are off schedule because he has eaten again instead of sleep.  To top things off, now I can't even get him to fall asleep in my arms.   Grrr...this is so frustrating, and I feel bad for the poor little guy...he is sooo tired.  Up until recently I had been driving him around in the car for naps so that he would at least get some sleep (this was before I found out about Tracy's book).  Wish I had that when I first brought him home. 

Thanks for all of your help, I really appreciate it!
Tara
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07/06/05


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« Reply #3 on: December 08, 2005, 22:16:57 pm »
Hello again,

Has he always ate every 2 hours? I am just wondering because at 5 months that is very often. I know according to Tracy's book a 5 month old can eat every 4 hours (metabolically), was your lo premature as that can necessitate eating more often (even though birth age is five months, he can be behind if he was born earlier-premature).So you find he is eating a full feeding every two hours or could he be snacking as out of habit, I take it he is breastfed? How long is his activity time? Since you are just implementing easy, don't be too hard on yourself if you fall off routine as it might take a week or more to get your lo used to routine. So your lo is used to a feeding before sleep and being rocked to sleep, I would start first by trying to get his E in before activity and make sure he is getting a full feeding, then once that was established, move to not feeding him again after his activity. Once he is used to that then you can move onto training him to fall asleep without a prop (rocking him), but just work on one at a time or else it may be hard. Let me know how it's going :) good luck!
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« Reply #4 on: December 08, 2005, 22:36:08 pm »
as  far as the eating every 2 hours go, i know with dd she was like that and she was born a bit early so for the first two months i let it go and i was convinced that she needed to eat that often b/c she was taking full feeds too - but if u start stretching it out 15 min a time, you will realize that u will produce more milk and lo will be hungrier and will take more milk at a single feeding.  let me know how things are going  :)
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