Here's an Update on the last few days:
Saturday: awake 8:30, 3 naps (2 hr, 1.5 hr, 25 min), 7:30 bath, 8:00 nurse, 8:20 she's done nursing and is relaxed but not really asleep, put her in crib, sooth (as would sooth for a nap), and she's asleep in 5 minutes! Total of 5 meals during the day. Woke at 2:30 am, nursed for 30 min, not asleep when laid her back in crib, soothed for 10 min and asleep. Slept till about 7:30 Sunday morning.
So this was a great day and great night!
Sunday: awake 7:30, 3 naps (1 hr 20 min, 2 hr 10 min, 30 min), 6:30 bath, 7:00 nurse and not falling asleep at all. I think this might have been a little too early of a bedtime--she only started her day 11.5 hours ago. Anyway, she nursed 30 min, and was awake in crib, soothed about 10 min, seemed to sleep, heard some fussing, replaced paci about 30 min later, but after that seemed OK. My husband soothed her around 10:20 and 10:50 because he heard her on the monitor, but I was in bed and didn't hear a thing. I doubt she really needed any attention then. Total of 5 meals again today. Woke at 1:30 nursed 30 min, not alseep, soothed 30 min in crib before even drowsy. I left her alone before fully asleep, but did go to sleep. Then awake at 4:45, lots of crying because I wouldn't nurse her, asleep at 5:30. Awake at 6:20 -- probably coming out of REM from the earlier waking episode? Replaced paci and immediately asleep, wake again 6:50 but she's not calling for attention, she's making her noises that mean "it's morning and I'll play for a bit before calling Mommy."
So this was a good day, not a good night. However, I am proud of myself for not feeding her at 4:45 and getting her back to sleep. I couldn't get back to sleep myself, but oh well.
So I'm going to continue helping her extend naps (although she needs less and less help each naptime), I'm going to continue with 5 feeds each day, and I'm going to continue an earlier bedtime (just maybe not quite as early as last night--maybe give her 12 or 12.5 total hours of "day").
And I think I'm going to try the dreamfeed tonight. If she's asleep by 7:30 or 8:00 tonight, I was thinking I'd do the dream feed around 11:00. Does that sound right? Assuming that she does nurse at the dreamfeed, if she wakes up after that (for example, at her typical time of 2 am), then I should not feed her, right? I should just try to get her back to sleep with the pacifier? And is the idea here that if I am consistent about not feeding her, she will stop waking up at night?
Thanks again!
Melanie