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« on: December 29, 2005, 15:33:27 pm »
Okay, here's the new thread.  That felt so cool!   8)

No time to type as I am still at my mom's and Ryan needs the office for his nap.   :(   He's sleeping well, but has a cold and I think for real this time that his 2nd tooth is coming.  We'll see.
We are home tomorrow and I will be back boring you all to tears.   :lol:
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« Reply #1 on: December 29, 2005, 15:45:26 pm »
boy kate, you're so cool.  can i hang out with you??

welcome to all newcomers to the March/April '05 thread.  Feel free to join in our madness anytime!

okay, our night was better...waking at midnight and back down...up from 4:30-5:45 then down until 6:30.  sheesh, hard to believe that's a good night :roll:  top tooth nearly through then maybe, just maybe I'll have my sweet little sleeper back again!

judy-any update on the poop?  maybe try the qtip suppository?  ouchie.

bec-priceless pic of helle.  far more entertaining than cole's spaced out "boy my tooth sure hurts" look that he has going on santa's lap.

he just found himself in the mirror on his exersaucer and his having a conversation with himself. LOL!
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« Reply #2 on: December 29, 2005, 17:09:23 pm »
Good morning and welcome to the new thread :)  Kate you are so cute.  I can't wait to read your boring posts again soon  :lol:  :wink:

Michelle, that is great that you and ex dh (can you call him that? :) )  Are on such good terms.  Dh and his ex are fairly good at dealing with the situation but she pretty much makes all of the decisions schooling etc and he just sort of goes along.  Kinda drives me crazy but what can I do?  We see him every other weekend and holidays.  We have him all week this week because of xmas break.  He absolutely loves Sophie.  It is really cute.  In fact yesterday morning (they share a room) I went downstairs to make her a bottle in the morning and she was fussing a bit in her crib while I was making it.  Anyhow, Brendan woke up and I could hear him on the monitor saying "It's Ok Sophie girl I'm right here"  over and over.  It was so precious.  I have to be really careful what I say as I have mentioned before that Sophie would "miss" him when he left to go back to mom's and he gets really sad and says "But Sophie, I have to go to first grade.  You understand right?"   Aside from the room sharing thing, I think he really wishes he could be with us more(because of her). 

Also, thanks for the input on Mason and the tv watching thing.  I really know that it is not going to warp Sophie's brain if the tv is on...I guess it's probably my own issue.  I kind of hate having the tv on especially as background noise.  It seems like it was always on when I was growing up.  It is always on at IL's and no one is watching!  It drives me crazy to be sitting together talking and have the tv on.  Anyhow.  I really have appreciated the conversation about it.

Bec..you are too funny.  The "other" kinds of smoke...I guess I should leave that up to your imagination :)  Otherwise I might not be allowed to visit my lifeline anymore :)  Lol at "Helle"  and Santa's expression is too funny.  Also...stranger danger in the chat  :lol: IKWYM.  I finally learned how to check who's in there before I go in.  :)  Silly me...I still enjoy chatting with anyone most of the time though it's not as satisfying as having you girls there.

Roz...good to see you and Cathy welcome home.

Where's Ankie??? 

Nikki- lol about the baby Neptune song...it is actually the song from World Animals...the ocean part.  I only know this becasue Sophie loves that song...if I start singing it when the movie is not on...she whips her head around to look at me like "Hey! How do YOU know that song?"  It makes me think of what it will be like in the future when we are driving in the car and some old song comes on the radio that was popular when I was in highschool and it's come back around and I'll start singing along and she'll say "Mom...stop...that's so embarassing :roll: "

Andrea...I have never really looked closely at the ADD ADHD/and tv studies so I have no idea.  I am happy to assume that your ped is right and that genetics are probably a huge factor as well as other environmental things besides tv watching.  I think it would be really hard to pin something like add/adhd (which is so subjective anyway) on tv watching.  I think the fact that there is a correlation is not a surprise, but that certainly doesn't mean that one causes the other. 
I bet Ankie knows more about this?? Or Kate or Erin? (The other teachers maybe?)  IF we want to keep discussing it that is...feel free to drop it :)

OK, one more chapter to my book here.   I forgot to mention one of my favorite xmas presents.  (I would say pressies...but I'm trying to hold on to a little of my americanisms... why? I don't really know, Crikey!)  MIL bought me an antique baby crib.  I absolutely love it.  It will be basically decorative in Sophie's rom for her stufffed animals etc...but eventually she could play with it as a doll bed (IF she plays with dolls...:)OMG, she is going to play with dolls isn't she?...she's probably going to want barbies too..I am sooo in for it)  Anyhow.  I am excited for her to have her own room soon so that i can set it up..

Woops...one more thing. Richelle I am turning green over the high thread count sheets I love that kind of stuff.
Also, I would say I found the BW site much the same way you did.  Read the book, needed clarification, posted, didn't get much response. Posted again later, found you girls and the rest is history :)

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« Reply #3 on: December 29, 2005, 19:04:18 pm »
OMG Richelle, 600 thread count would be heaven! My 500 pales in comparison!!!! 1000...I would have to resort to CIO as I would never get out of bed!  :wink:

Thanks for the compliments on dh. Of course, i would never tell him as his ego would be too difficult to handle... Seriously, I love him to bits and I cannot believe that he was single when I met him at age 34! (he was 34, not me) BTW, he is 42, I don't think he looks it but then he is sooo patient and relaxed!

Kate, too cool about starting a new thread! Looking forward to more posts from you all.

Hannah, please, please tell me how to check who is in the chat room before I enter. I feel obligated to stay and chat for a bit even if I know no one and my first instinct is also to run!! Very stranger anxious, me!

Will be back later, no doubt.
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« Reply #4 on: December 29, 2005, 19:30:18 pm »
ooooh, hannah-you are BRILLIANT.  I just went and looked.  When you go into chat there is something near the top that says "there are X number of users in chat".  It is underlined.  If you click on it it says who is in.
Of course if we call click and don't go in...then none of us will ever be there KWIM?

forgot to mention Richelle-those sheets sound heavenly.  I MUST invest in good bedding.  All of mine is cheapo IKEA or something similar.  I have jersey sheets for winter though and they are super comfy.  I've been trying to find new bedding so I can totally redo our room.  It still is not painted after 6 years in this house! ugh.  i need a haven to escape to!

well, we're going to a party tonight.  wish me luck.  last time we put cole down and woke him at 11 to come home he slept right through.  maybe it will work again.
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« Reply #5 on: December 29, 2005, 19:32:37 pm »
Judy-are you online?  are there any other parenting books you recommend?  Chapters is having a sale and DH is going there later on.

Wasn't there something like "how to talk to your child..."?

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« Reply #6 on: December 29, 2005, 20:20:22 pm »
I'm heeeeereeeeeee!!! :)

Sorry I was out today ladies.  DH is home so I took the opportunity to go out... actually a friend needed some help with some computer stuff so I was kinda working!  Wow, had to get my work brain functioning.  It was nice.

So... poop update... the remedy worked! :)  it took a bit.  This morning we still had 3 bouts of hard pushing with little result.  Then we had the hard pushing with a lot of result and following that, a good 'normal' diaper!  :)  and  one happy girl!

Traci - yes that's a great book - "how to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk"  Excellent book!  I think one of the authors is Adele Faber??? But I could be wrong on that.  I've just got a well recommended book by someone Greene (ross??) called the Explosive Child.  Deb has recommended it on here a number of times and I've had other people at the UP site recommend it.  It's hard to know if it will be useful to anyone yet though.  I'm reading it more for Zoe who is older and very emotional.  Probably very normal - like if her sandwhich isn't cut properly or a bit of crust is tearing off she will fall to the floor in screams :roll:  The book is about much MORE emotional kids but I thought it would be useful in understanding how she feels and how to deal with it rather than letting myself be frustrated at her.

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« Reply #7 on: December 29, 2005, 20:24:29 pm »
Yep I always use the view who's in there first.  But I also love going in and meeting up with my old pals from when we used to chat.  Also, these baby chat threads are a relatively new thing so it is nice that we have everyone to chat with daily.

Well no sign of that tooth today, so maybe it's popped back down a bit.

Judy, did the remedy work on Kaia?

Hannah, you can see my brain has been warped by all the BE watching! LOL. 

Gotta go, Nathan wants to play Tractor Tom online.

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« Reply #8 on: December 29, 2005, 20:33:49 pm »
OK, have distracted Nathan for a bit LOL.

Judy, we posted at the same time.  Nathan is doing the whole my food is broken and falls to pieces over it - OMG, who would have thought a bit of cheese tearing off was the end of the world??  Glad to hear the remedy worked.

Richelle, I just went back and read the last page of the old thread, I missed it for some reason.  Cool to hear that Sophie was getting back into her playing.  For me that was the main reason the TV got switched off, not so much the possible ADHD or anything, I just really noticed a positive change in his ability to play.

I also had to go back and read what you were all talking about sheets and thread counts - I was SOOOOOO confused, never heard of them talked that way before.   :lol:

Bec, I'm going to check out those links later on today, when I get the kids down for a nap hopefully and will let you know.

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« Reply #9 on: December 30, 2005, 00:48:06 am »
hey girls just popped into say hi!!!
Welcome to all the newbies.
Just had to say thaank you to Lisa and Richelle, I gor your cards in the past couple of days...thank you sooo much. Ankie I did get yours too, I got swamped with them last week.
That was such a good idea...loved getting the cards from around the place.
Well gotts run, I had to stay late tonite, oh well!!! thank goodness for over time!!!
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« Reply #10 on: December 30, 2005, 01:12:54 am »
Quick hello!!!  So, after Carter went down for his nap today, I went for my mommy nap and had the weirdest dream!!!  I dreamt that it was Fri night ... chat time ... but all of our husbands took over and chatted to each other instead!!!  So weird!!  It was funny because they were talking about our lo's like we do and not about sports or cars or other "manly" things!!!  You know you're addicted to BW when ... you dream about BW!!!!  :shock:  :lol:

Hmm .. Chapters is having a sale ???  I hope it's an across Canada sale.  I must check and see if there is a sale here too.  Thanks Traci!
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« Reply #11 on: December 30, 2005, 01:57:05 am »
Hi - having a quick check in with my girls while Daniel settles for sleep, then I'm off outside to restain our outdoor chairs. It's kind of 'my job' each year to do them. Well I started doing them and I've kept it up ever since. I like doing it as it makes them look all new again.

Sheets.... ahhhh, I love the idea of nice ones, but most of ours are cheapies. The only really nice ones which are 100% cotton crease like crazy which annoys me and as I don't get into ironing much they look terrible.  :oops: We have just bought/got given for Chrissy pressy a new summer duvet 100% cotton. Much nicer to sleep under than the dacron/polyester filled ones. Feels luxurious so that's a start to my luxury bed. :D

I'll have to have a look at those parenting books too. So many options it's hard to know what to look for to read about, so recommendations are good. I've borrowed a couple from our library, one called Discipline without Shouting or Spanking (Wyckoff & Unell) and another called Raising Boys by Steve Bidulff. Haven't actually read either yet, but I've flicked thru a little bit and seems ok. I hope so. Although the discipline one does use time out, but that's after you've gone thru what happened, what should have happened, and what to do next time. If that doesn't work in one example they've used an appropriate length of time out. I'll let you know what it's like once I've read it. I was talking with my mum about discipline, saying I don't really remember how they disciplined us, so it can't have been bad. She just said her thoughts on what we will do will be that we are doing what we think is right for our family and for our children. Hopefully it will be the best way of dealing with the situation. She /they were not 'dictators' or overly disciplinary and I think that's why it's not an issue for me. Her sisters used to say she was too soft on us, but considering I used to be 'scared' of my aunty I think she (aunty) was too hard/old school. So perhaps my mum was of the UP type and we just didn't know it back then. Wow, I'm lucky to have such an easy going mum I guess. MIL the same I think, although I get the feeling the wooden spoon may have been used in DH's family once or twice. At least a smack. Something I definitely want to avoid. I don't see how that can help any situation.

Enough from me for now.

Oh, just wanted to add that DH looked after Daniel thismorning from when he woke up (Daniel) at 7.00am until about 1pm. I got up after toast and coffee in bed had a shower and went shopping. Bought some lingerie, t-shirt and a pot plant pot, plus stuff for my table. Anyway.... big rave for wonderful DH looking after son so well and big smiles for my heart when I came in the door (to a clean kitchen might I add) and my little boy gives me a huge smile and holds his hands out for me!  :D What a wonderful feeling it is to be a mum. We are all soooo lucky!
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« Reply #12 on: December 30, 2005, 02:25:16 am »
Bec thanks for those links... I started in on the first one but then had to go out. It sounded really interesting - I want to get back to it.  I think I'll bookmark it because I'm getting ready for bed right now - sooo tired today.

Yeah Nikki - food is a big button pusher around here.  I cannot believe the heartbreak it causes and how much just CANNOT be accepted when it isn't perfect.  If only they could understand/see what it looks like once they've chewed it up! :)

As for chat - yes I know I've never made it on.  Nothing personal but I've been busy with my shows up till now you know ;) ... I had popped in to the Friday night chats when they used to have them but I just can't pull myself away and then I'm up WAY too late.  (no self control I guess) Anyway, I was going to say, I think they're reviving the Friday night chats with some and that's why you are finding more 'outsiders' ;) there.  Nikki, are you finding with these new threads (like this one) that you aren't getting to the rest of the site much?  I find I'm so engrossed here that I rarely poke around elsewhere - I try to make a point every couple days but not like I used to.  These chat threads are nice!! :)


Hayley!!  How wonderful for you to get out for a little personal shopping and come home to a smiling young lad and a clean kitchen!!!  I went out today to do some software consulting and came home to a complete disaster!!  DH went out to do some shopping so I sent the older girls with him and cleaned the joint up - so in the end I felt good but golly how nice it would have been to have someone else do it!!  Big hugs to your dh tonight! :)  Oh, and you bought lingerie??  WTH is that?  :)  Does my blue and white checked jammie shirt with my pink striped lounge pants combo count?  If I'm not wearing underwear does that make it sexy?  LOL  Oh man - I need to go to bed, I'm pathetic!! :)

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« Reply #13 on: December 30, 2005, 04:17:02 am »
Hello ladies,

Nikki... thanks for the links. If any of you would have mentioned Alfie Kohn, I would have known what you were talking about. I guess I know of him in an educational capacity so... didn't make the connection to UP. He was the keynote speaker at one of the seminars this year but I didn't make it... too pregnant!

Karen, lovely pic of your family! I made the congee today with grated carrots and minced cooked turkey. Arwyn ate all 2-ish tablespoons! Yeah! My child eats so little... I just can't get her to eat anymore so it is great that she will eat this! Also, this is the first "hot" food she has eaten in a while. For the past little while, she would only eat cold "straight from the fridge" food. :roll:

We have a TV freak over here. We have owned the 15 disc set from before she was born and we just bought Wordsworth and On the Go for Christmas. I found that we let her watch more of it when we are both home and busy. So... while cleaning out the fridge and washing it, we put it on. While getting the turkey ready, we put it on. When DH is back to work though, she will get significantly less as I normally don't put it on at all while I am at home with her.

Link between ADD / ADHD and TV... hmmm... well, I have heard that. I don't know how solid that theory is. I know that the flashing images are geared to holding attention for short periods of time... you will notice that all children's shows do this. Think about Sesame Street... everything is in 30 sec. vingettes and the letters and numbers flash several times during those 30 seconds. I think the hazard of TV is the need to be "entertained". I feel that children who watch too much TV or spend too much time playing computer games have a need to be "entertained". These are students who frequently complain that the teacher is boring or "why do I have to learn this?" or simply can't pay attention.

As for the cause of ADD/ ADHD, has anybody read the book, Scattered Minds by Gabor Mate? He has an interesting theory that ADD / ADHD has roots in-utero and that events in pregnancy can trigger it.

Okay... I have been MIA in the last few days... DH is home and we have been spending some family time together. Something happened today that is so upsetting to me and I am having a hard time coping.

Arywn fell down the stairs in her walker.

DH left the gate open at the top of the stairs and she went flying down them. I was in the kitchen preparing her lunch so we could take it with us and I hear this loud clatter and then silence. I shout "OMG!" when I realized what happened and DH realized at the same time. I get to the top of the stairs and all I see are her little legs pointing upwards and the walker, right side up, on top of her little body. DH sprints down the stairs and throws the walker off her and picks her up. She is screaming down the house and I am crying. I couldn't stop crying... I held her and touched every little part of her tiny body to check if something was broken. I was just so upset at DH for leaving the gate open. He came upstairs and just left it open. I have told him I am still mad... I can't stop thinking about it. Arwyn could have been killed or permanently disabled. I am still very upset about it and get all choked up everytime I see the stairs or the gate. (Of course, I can see the damn things at the computer.)

Arwyn is fine. We didn't go to the hospital or anything as she returned to her regular self within 10 minutes. I think me crying upset her more than anything. We spent some time at a friend's and then drove home and drove around while she got her full 1.5 hour nap. Then she played like her usual self. She did take 45 minutes to put down for sleep though.

I am still worried. Should I take her to the hospital? I told DH that we need to be on baby watch tonight and check on her every 2 hours. (We had to do that after she hit her head and needed stitches. :oops: ) I am feeling like a really bad mommy and I didn't even leave the gate open. What upsets me the most is that DH isn't as cautious as me about Arwyn. He thinks everything is fine. He lets her pull up on stuff and he is across the room or sitting at the computer. Drives me nuts. Today's incident happened on "my watch" but it is DH's lack of responsibility that caused it. I am so mad and upset and don't know how to deal with it. What if there actually are injuries that are not obvious? Internal bleeding? Brain damage? I am so paranoid. I just couldn't imagine life without her (or the her I know).

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« Reply #14 on: December 30, 2005, 04:17:09 am »
Bec, I still haven't checked out those links I ended up napping when the kids did today which rarely happens - but I was just soooo tired, I succumbed to my snugly bed.  So, will read them tonight.

Judy, I don't cruise the other threads as much as I used to, I'm hooked to this one  8) , I do still click "all new posts" but really quickly scan for mostly toddler threads, lounge and the odd other forum (and Activity too).  I already feel so over baby threads and so glad I'm over the whole newborn thing!

Hayley, your shopping morning out sounds fab!  Since I don't pump or do bottles, I think my longest away from D is about 2hrs in the weekends.  Roll on 3mths!  :) 

LOL, Judy at the underwear thing - do shabby-old-stretched-been-through-two-children nursing bras count with comfy cotton undies?  I am looking forward to new underwear shopping I must say, think I'll need some booby-reviving bras though.  :shock:

Right, off to sort out dinner, BE's been through 2 rounds...DH has gotten home early from work.