Hi Deb,
Thanks for your quick reply. OK a typical day at the moment looks something like this:
0320am wake up – feed 120ml (took 1 hour to settle – is becoming extremely determined to remain awake after early morning feed – urghhh! Quite aggressive)
0705am wake up – feed 120ml (in his room where it’s dark and quiet)
0750am yawn
0800am put to bed
0845am awake (bring into to our bedroom where I have my breakfast and dangle toys for him to look at, talk or sing to him, terrible as I sound)
0930am yawn
0945am put to bed (would not sleep)
1040am feed, activity
1115am down to sleep
1200pm awake
0110pm light feed and put to bed
0410pm awake and feed
activity = visited friends returned home 0600pm, usual activity at this time is I water our plants, front and back; I place him in his stroller and wheel him around while I’m doing this and I talk to him – he has plants, sky, trees to look at as well as his dangly tiger, which he loves)
0615pm bath
0645pm feed
0715pm asleep
Thomas, usually sleeps through now with only one wake up however after these early morning wake/feeds he’s become extremely difficult over the past 4 day/nights to settle back to sleep – he nods off after his feed I gently burp him and when I move to the bench where his wrap is laid out ready to swaddle him he is immediately alert and his body goes into back arches and aggressive shouting etc. in order to avoid the swaddling, once swaddled I return to the chair in his room and nurse him quietly to stage three which he jerks in and out of. He tries to avoid his dummy as he knows it’s his cue to go back to bed when he does accept his dummy (not always) he sucks furiously for about 5 minutes. He buries his head into my under arm and is almost asleep, but not quite when I move to the crib – once in his crib he jerks awake and brings forth a furious cry – eventually he goes to sleep – it’s been taking me an hour at the least. Previously he returned to his crib after early morning feeds with a bit of fussing only.
I’ve kept a strict record of his pattern for 4 days now and this is typical each day he seems to manage to have a 2-3 hour sleep in the afternoon, is this just how he’s going to be or should I expect him to sleep 2-3 hours in the morning too?
FYI – he has slept through about 6-7 times, from 7pm to 6am; is the expectation of him sleeping through like this too much sleep for him in one hit?
Also he often yawns after he’s woken up, is this a sign of having had a relaxing sleep or he’s still tired? He yawns sometimes 20-30mins after a 3-4 hour sleep.
Some other questions I have:
Feeding
During his day feeds I often feed him in the family room, it’s fairly bright and colourful and there are loads of interesting things for him to look at, also if I’m working in the kitchen he can see me moving about and I can talk to him and also keep an eye on him body language wise. Should I stick to one place for feeding?
As he has remained awake sometimes right up to his next feed I’ve found that his schedule is in the wrong order ie. awake too early, activity, feed and sleep time again.
Noise
We live on a very busy and noisy boulevard and of the night I play a music CD - it has relaxing heartbeat and soft soothing maternal rhythms which is supposed to encourage calm, relaxation and peace. I’ve been using this of the night on a continual loop until most of the noisy traffic has abated, I cease the music playing at about 10pm when we also go to sleep. I’ve been researching a white noise machine which isn’t that easy to find in Australia have you heard of them and are they any good?
I don’t always play his CD during the day as I don’t want him to become reliant on it; historically he’s slept many 3 and 4 hour stints even during the noisiest part of the day.
Activity
I’ve in the past had bright things hanging for Thomas to look at but I think that he now needs more interactive activity. He hasn’t had a lot of tummy time purely due to the fact that being a reflux bub he’s been quite intolerant of it but I’ll persevere.
Hands
he's found his hands and now intentionally suckles on them - I'm afraid to let his hands free from swaddling, any thoughts?
About the latest BW book I take it that there are now 3 books one for infants, toddlers and a new one – is that correct? If so I’m going to get one big time …….. ah Deb dear me – he’s a lovable mite when he’s not so cranky but I’m a 1st timer and an older one at that, just the way things happened I’m 37 and this is quite a culture shock to both of us to say the least! I’m dreading having a 2nd child and I get another spirited or worse a touchy baby! Urghhhhh! Or my goodness imagine a multiple birth – hmmmmmmmmm will have to give this matter plenty of thought
Look forward to your response.
Ciao, ciao
Anna
ps. when i last took the personality test for Thomas he had 7 Spirited answers followed closely behind with 6 grumpy - lucky me!