Hi
I think after using the soothing hand on her back and not working,you should try the counting method.
When you put them to bed and they're crying lay them down,go out of the room and count to 10,go in lay them doen,go out,count to 10,go in,lay them down,go out,count to 10 etc
You only go in if they're still crying and you can ,make the counting to 10 as long or short as you like eg,12345678910 or 1...............2..............3 etc
If they're laying down,but still crying,then go in after 10 and stroke head once and go out and continue.
I PROMISE you the first night is the worse,but I did pelvic floors whilst counting which took my mind off of the screaming.
Also if they stop crying after the count of 5 or 6 for example,stop counting,then start again when the crying starts.
Don't go in to check if the crying has stopped,chances are they're just dozing and will make it 20 times worse (believe me,I did this a couple of times as did Sue Wink )
Any questions then I'm here.
I've just taking this from a Post called ' I CAN'T GO ON LIKE THIS MUCH LONGER'
It's worth reading as Sue (jack and Ellas mum) had just started it and it's working wonders.
It also worked for me and my Emily so I can vouch for it.I remember seeing it a few years back on one of Tracy's programmes but didn't register as I had the angel child.It was only when the devil child (who is yummy)came along it all changed.
I can't stress though how hard the first night is,so keep calm and bare with it,it only gets better
PM me if you need,although we're all here for you