Hi prncess,
I know you've posted questions in a number of different boards and I don't want to confuse you by everyone giving you a different bit of advice, but my suggestions would be:
okay, my days vary.we are up between 8 and 9.
Tracy suggests that, particularly when you are trying to establish a routine, you pick a regular wake up time and stick to that every day. Most mums have a wake up time around 7am, but you need to pick a time that works best for you and your DS.
he stays until between 11 and 12. then a nap for 30 min or less then up. (He is feeding about every 2 hrs) he really does not nap a lot or for long.
If your DS is waking up at 8 and going down for a nap at 11, that is a 3 hour A time. That is a long time for a LO of your DS's age. I would recommend that you have a look at the sample routines at the top of the EASY board which will help to give you an idea of how long other 10 week olds are staying awake. I would think that at 10 weeks A time would be around an hour and a half. One of the big reasons that your DS will be having short naps is if he is overtired - and I suspect that with a 3 hour A time he probably is a bit overtired.
There is really no reoutine.
Tracy does not recommend a strict schedule but she does suggest that your routine be based losely around Eat Activity Sleep You time (EASY). Many LO's of your son's age are cycling through that in around 2.5 - 3 hours (during the day).
Did i mention that he had open heart surgery 4 weeks ago and is recovering from a resp infection as well
Poor little guy. I would imagine all this recovery probably means that he really does need his sleep. Hopefully getting some order to his days might help you both out.
a typical night goes like this... we have quiet time... usally a feeding then a bath then holding time... pat and ssssh (Only if he is crying) then to bedroom. It is dimly lit at all times. We listen to lullibyes (music on sometimes all night) one more feed until he sleeps then to basket. This sleep lasts for 3-5 hrs then up every 2 hrs to feed.
All of this sounds really good, like you are getting into some good habits early. I would suggest that you try not to feed him all the way to sleep as that will create a sleep association of needing to be fed to sleep. Try and put your LO into his bed drowsy but still a little awake. I know that can be quite hard for a LO your son's age but that should be your goal. That first night sleep stretch of 3 - 5 hours is good - that means that DS is learning to distinguish night from day. It does take a while. It is also quite normal for DS to wake during the night to feed at his age.
He hates the paci though we are trying it more now.
My DS was very similar - he never LOVED the paci - took it sometimes but not always. It made it easy to wean though at about 4 months so hopefully it will be for you too.
Again, how do you force a 10 week old to sleep?
Well, you
can't force him
I remember my DH asking me the same question
What you can do is try and help him learn how to sleep and help him to create good positive sleep associations. It doesn't happen overnight, it will take time. But you are doing a great job so far. It is hard when you are feeling so sleep deprived and especially when you have had such a rough 10 weeks but you and your DS will both get there.
Good luck and HTH
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