My DS is now 14 months old and waking once a night, usually from 1 am to 4 am, and it's wearing us down.
When he was a tiny baby, he was a decent sleeper. At 6 months old, he went on solids and we managed to stick to some kind of routine and he slept well.
Since he's been a toddler, he seems to have forgotten how to sleep through the night. Since Christmas, we have been transitioning from two naps to one and we are trying to go back to some sort of routine at the moment
I can't see the wood from the trees. I know we have various issues:
- He goes to bed when he's tired. If he has had a poor nap and is tired, he goes to bed early, otherwise we wait roughly for 4 hours from the end of his nap to put him to bed. The last couple of nights, it has been up to 9.45 pm, as he decided he was having too much fun to go down !
- I used to get him to sleep with pat/shush but I appreciate that I have to teach him independent sleep, so I now sit by his bed with sometimes a hand on his back while he falls asleep. Every once in a while he raises his head to make sure I'm still there then lies back. I also tried popping out of the room to the bathroom next door until he whines in order to get him used to the idea of him being alone without me in his cot
- I have always given him a bottle to settle him down. I have taken the view that because he usually wakes up at different times he wakes up out of hunger (which is probably wrong !). He is healthy and active but a poor eater and despite offering him greater quantities of food during the day he eats like a bird, which may explain the night wakings. Yesterday, we tried switching from SMA Gold to SMA Progress in the hope that a formula that is less rich may encourage him to eat more during the day
Where do I start ? I am trying to settle him in a new routine to start with, waking up at 7.30 am, nap from 1 pm to 3 pm, asleep at 8 pm, which fits in with his existing meal and bath times and our family
I am aware that some of you would be thinking of earlier bed times, but if he has a long PM nap and is still lively at 9.30 pm, that is not an option
Many thanks for the advice :?