Hi all- I am new to this site and in fact have never been in a chat room or posted a message like this. Please pardon my possible lack of etiquette and the length of this posting... I've looked at many of the postings and haven't quite found a consolidated answer for my dilemma. Long story short, I returned to work a few weeks ago and am in desperate need of a schedule for my 4 month old. I read the "whisperer" right after she was born, but failed in putting her down sleepy but awake. I am ready to give EASY another try! Her schedule right now is very lax. I have tried to get our nanny to put her on a rough schedule, but she says the baby will decide her own schedule. The problem is that if the nanny lets her do whatever she wants during the day (irregular, non-existent naps, etc), I pay for it at night! Either she falls asleep at 4pm (when I get home) and sleeps forever and messes up her night (up every 2 hours), or she does not nap and is not a fun baby to be around, and I have to force her to stay up to barely 7pm! SO I am going to write down a schedule and insist she
roughly adheres to it. Another factor is that yesterday her Dr. said she can start on rice cereal. (I think it is a little early but I am having trouble pumping enough for her anyway, so I will give this a try). My question for those reading this is how to plan her eating and sleeping schedule? I was told she needs to eat rice cereal 2x a day- morning and evening. I want to implement EASY so I need to make sure her feedings do not come right before naps. She currently can NOT get to sleep on her own, and needs to eat/nurse, or sometimes I can get her to sleep by rocking her with the pacifier. I know it's bad. Once I get her on a schedule I am going to then work on getting her to sleep on her own. (Can EASY work for a short time without establishing her getting herself to sleep first? Another posting indicated that EASY would not work with 'props' but I want to work on one thing at a time, and I think the schedule is more manageable.)
Anyway, when I am with her she always needs a nap at 9am. She seems to need one late afternoon nap after I get home from work, and one in between, so 3 naps. And I start our bedtime ritual around 7 - which really is a little late because she shows signs before then but I cannot fathom putting her to bed at 6 (a short late afternon nap might help)... She wakes up 2x at night to nurse (1 or 2am and 4 or 5 am), which I am ok with. I am not going to push getting her to sleep through the night at this point. I read Dr. Weissbluth's book and have been happy with his advice so far as well. After 4 months he says naps at 9, 1, and an optional late afternoon nap, which it seems like she is asking for anyway. So I am aiming for that. Here are my ideas for a schedule, which I am going to implement starting tomorrow (I will have 3 days to get it going).
-Wake up at 7am (she is pretty consistent about this). Feed her 4 - 5 oz (or nurse if I am not at work).
-Activity
-Nap at 9am for ~1 hour - 1.5 hrs.
-Up at 10 to 10:30. Drink a little breastmilk, eat rice cereal, little more bottle/nursing. By the way does she HAVE to have milk before and after eating solids?
-Activity
-Nap at 12:30
-Up at 1:30. Nurse or 4 - 5 oz bottle.
-Short nap around 4pm. Maybe just 30 minutes?
- 5:00 dinner - milk, rice cereal, milk like before.
- Activity
- Nurse and bed time starting at 7pm. Eventually put in crib drowsy but awake.
- two night wakings for now. Start it all over at 7am.
Is this a typical schedule for a 4 month old? This is my first baby so I have no idea. Like I said I have not been doing EASY, so timing the eating not around naps seems a little tough. I am sure you think I am a NUTS control freak, but seriously for me to be back at work I need this. It is SO frustrating to come home and have no idea where she's at with her eating, sleeping, and mood. My nanny is not that great at writing down when she naps and eats, so I come home and stare into a blank page! I am working on getting the nanny to include her afternoon activities (she does document the morning). Not to mention, my husband watches her on Wednesdays so he would probably benefit from having a rough guideline. AND most importantly our LO would have consistency, even though her caregivers change from me to my husband to the nanny. Anyway, does it sound like she would be getting enough to eat? Enough sleep? I am certain my baby will fall right into place with whatever we establish. She is a textbook baby, and really easy going. However, I have noticed her showing signs of having an 'opinion' about sleeping and naps recently, so i want to get her on a schedule before she gets older and more 'opinionated'!!
Thank you for any advice you have to offer!