Hi guys
I've been following the BW way with my 4.5 month old DS since day 1 and we've mostly done really well with it. We went through a really sticky patch between 3 and 4 months when we were sleep training using pat/shush and eventually PU/PD and he was only taking 45 minute naps. I decided to relax and go with the flow around this time because I was getting too stressed out trying to extend his naps but he can now go to sleep independently (if not usually just a little PU/PD) and is perfectly capable of extending his naps.
However, his naps are all over the place - sometimes he only does half an hour for his first nap and wakes up happy and smiling and if I try to extend the nap it makes him scream (because he was ready to get up!) and this goes against my maternal instincts, it's just awful! Other times he'll do 1.5 hours in the morning (1 hr 50mins A time seems to sometimes work at the moment). But if he takes a long nap in the morning he only takes short naps for the rest of the day. If he takes a short nap in the morning I sometimes get a longer one later on but sometimes it's catnaps for the entire day!
I need some help to 'fix' Zander's routine because not being on a predictable routine doesn't suit us (particularly Zander's textbook mummy!). I just can't seem to get his A times right - he can stay awake for up to 2.5 hours even if he's tired and he doesn't seem to have any tired signs anymore (no yawns). Should I try cutting his A times all back to 1hr 50mins and take it from there - I basically don't know whether to lengthen or shorten his A times!
Btw he's feeding every 4 hours and this suits us fine. He's waking once or twice in the night now when he used to sleep through (even without a DF). I've expressed some milk for tonight and I'm going to try a DF without taking him out of his crib. I can't pick him up without waking him like I could when he was younger and it really disrupts him. He's an early riser too and is often very tired even at the start of the day.
Any suggestions will be greatly appreciated, I feel we've lost our way!
Thanks
Kelly
