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Separation anxiety
« on: January 29, 2006, 16:32:48 pm »
Separation anxiety doesn't occur in babies of 6 months, right????
I can't leave Lydia's line of vision without her screaming the house down.  It doesn't make a difference if she can hear me, she doesn't stop sobbing until I come back into the room.
Sam isn't too fussed at all.
Or could it be that they (she) is just getting used to being a separate person.

I never had this problem with DS1.
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Re: Separation anxiety
« Reply #1 on: January 29, 2006, 23:43:40 pm »
I can't remember if I had this problem with DD :-[ But Ds has started to do it as well. Not all the time. More when he's tired. Mind you I prob didn't leave the room quite so much when i had one. Poor Ds has to entertain himself quite a bit ;)
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Re: Separation anxiety
« Reply #2 on: January 30, 2006, 22:59:45 pm »
I think it definitely can happen at 6 mos!  My dd started showing signs of it around 3/4 months.  I asked her pediatrician & she verified it definitely can happen earlier like that.  She seems to do better now with others unless she's really tired - then she wants mom!

Hang in there - I know it can be a little stressful!  ;)
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Re: Separation anxiety
« Reply #3 on: January 31, 2006, 08:52:59 am »
Oh Great!  ::)
Harry: 29 July 2003
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Sam:  28 June 2005
David: 28 June 2005 - 12 August 2005
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Re: Separation anxiety
« Reply #4 on: January 31, 2006, 14:33:44 pm »
 ;D I HAVE A SEVEN MONTH OLD BOY (EDDY) WHO WONT LET ME OUT OF HIS SIGHT EVEN IF I STAND UP HE STARTS WAILING THIS IS VERY TIRING AS I I ALSO HAVE TWO OTHER BOYS, JACKS TEN AND ALFIE IS EIGHT
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Re: Separation anxiety
« Reply #5 on: February 10, 2006, 12:51:34 pm »
Hello I have a threee month old boy who has developed stranger anxiety. If anyone else holds him he will cry immediately.  My husband at times will have difficulty settling him when I am not around.  He doesnt seem to mind if I am out of sight.  He will sit in his bouncy chair for quite some time with me out of the room and not cry.  But it is very frustrating
Have yoiu heard of this developing soo early??????????

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Re: Separation anxiety
« Reply #6 on: February 10, 2006, 14:57:33 pm »
Recently there was a program on tv on babies and different "age tests"- for separation anxiety they would put a baby in a room with a stranger and the mother, have the mother leave the room, then wait to see if baby cried or got upset at the mother's absence- it wasn't until age 13months (or so) that the babies got really upset- not being able to understand the concept that mom has not left for good. I wish I could remember the exact age they were, I do know it was older than 12 months because I remember thinking- great, when I go back to work from mat leave my dd is not going to get it that I'm coming back. Maybe the difference was that in the tests the babies were left with another person vs alone? I've wondered this as well as my lo will sometimes wimper when I leave her in her crib and be all smiles when I come running to her rescue.
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Re: Separation anxiety
« Reply #7 on: February 10, 2006, 15:46:22 pm »
andrew is 7.5 months and is starting to do that as well.

he can be happily playing on the floor and i can get up and go to the kitchen or the bathroom and he'll start to cry.  it's not horribly loud, but still it's heartwrenching.  luckily we live in a very small apartment so if i position him just right he can keep mostly in his line of view and then i step away for short periods of time and come back quick to reassure him that i'm coming back.  even if i just pop my head around the corner and say hi to him and go back to cleaning or whatever.  i don't know if this is the correct thing to do but it minimizes crying.

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Re: Separation anxiety
« Reply #8 on: February 10, 2006, 15:47:01 pm »
dionne,

Just wanted to let you know that yes, it can happen that early.  My dd started showing signs of this around 3 mos too.  She's fine now with people she knows well, but will cry with those she doesn't know.  Also, she's much more sensitive when tired or not feeling well.  

I hope things get better for you!
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Re: Separation anxiety
« Reply #9 on: February 10, 2006, 18:52:06 pm »
To momtoelise
Thank You for your reply.  Its good to know that other mom's experience the same thing.  It is very difficult especially when other people (like the grandparents) take it personally.  How long did it take your daughter to feel more comfortable and do u have any suggestions?  I have been trying to take him out to people's homes more often ,not to necessarily have them hold him but to just be around others! 
Cale is also more difficult when tired and at times my husband will even have difficulty settling him down when I leave them alone.  (I also have a 3 and a half year old)
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Re: Separation anxiety
« Reply #10 on: February 10, 2006, 20:27:08 pm »
Dionne,
My 2 are 7 months and won't settle for DH either.  Whenever he puts them to bed they won't settle and I have to go up and tuck them in, then they'll happily go to sleep!  ;)
Harry: 29 July 2003
Lydia: 28 June 2005
Sam:  28 June 2005
David: 28 June 2005 - 12 August 2005
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Re: Separation anxiety
« Reply #11 on: February 11, 2006, 16:30:32 pm »
dionne-

I know what you mean about people taking it personally!  My mother-in-law felt bad that Elise would cry & made a few comments about 'all she wants is her mom' - the tone she said them with made me feel so bad...   :(

I don't know that I have the magic solution, but what I did was just keep having her around people, but not push for them to hold her or anything.  I'd just let her slowly warm up to them.  Also, if she started fussing when being held by someone else - not immediately take her back, but try to smile at her/make her feel better in the other person's arms first.  She got better with grandparents in about a month & is great with them now - she's still a little wary of other people now, but usually does ok as long as I don't push her & she's not overtired (then it's not good  :o).
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