Just wanted to share a recent success I've had handling my 12-week old lo's 45 min. naps.
DD started having short naps, I think, because I had to wake her from her naps so often, trips to the doctor, shots, picking up big sister, etc. Basically, she unlearned how to transition between sleep cycles, which she used to do just fine. Or maybe it was just a coincidence and naps shortened on their own... Anyway, along with short naps came frequent night wakings.
With a toddler around sleep training got increasingly difficult. Shh/pat stopped dd from crying, but she was still awake after 30 minutes patting, and with sister interrupting me all the time, I would just give up and get dd up.
So today I tried something different. I went in BEFORE the 45 minute mark, and caught as it happened. With pressure on her arm, to stop the startling awake, she transitioned to another sleep cycle with minimal crying. This was for the morning nap, when sister is in school. So how could I repeat my success with her hanging around ? I told her BEFOREHAND what I was going to do (help lo sleep) and ASKED her if she could play quietly on her own (she does play on her own, but keeps coming to me to get her something, show me something, etc): I told her if she ABSOLUTELY needed me, to come in the room very quietly so as not to wake lo. So in I go before the 45 min. mark, hearing toddler play, caught the awakening jolt with pressure, and suddenly sister comes in the room! But she does it so softly, with her finger stretched towards me to kiss her boo-boo, which I do, and kiss her too, and off she goes. After a little bit she came in again with her chair and doll to sit next to me, but by then lo was sleeping soundly and I was able to get out. I thanked and praised toddler for helping me and playing so well on her own, and we played together until lo's next feed time.
Aahhhhhh, and how confident I feel towards the next naps, days, weeks !!!
Sara
P.S. Now, to handle the night waking too .....