Thanks for your replies. To answer your question, I cuddle her in the chair (no rocking, just some pat/sh) for a few minutes until she's settled and calm and on the verge, then put her in the crib. I continue pat/sh for a couple of minutes. I'm unsure if the pat/sh should go on until she's in deep sleep? My concern then would be that it does become a prop. I have a friend who had to pat/rub her daughter's back for 4 years, and that's a scenario I don't want to get into.
Also, my back is killing me from leaning over the crib to pat/sh - any great back-saver ideas???
Thanks, Maria