Hi, thanks for repling to me!
I'l start off by posting Owen's day on a good day when he gets his full naps!
7am - feed.
7:20am - Activity. My husband does this (I usually am catching up on sleep) but he usually has Owen in his chair or activity ring whilst he has breakfast himself.
8:30am - morning nap.
10:00-10:15am - wake from morning nap.
11:00am - feed.
11:20am - Activity. I have him here and I usually either hold him/play with him/sing to him or he sits in his chair with some toys and I talk/play/sing with him
12:45pm - roughly this time another nap, depends on time and length or morning nap.
2:30-2:45pm - wakes from nap.
3pm - feed.
3:20pm - 20-30min stroll in pushchair.
4:00pm - Activity, he's usually quite chilled out after his walk so I just sit him in his chair with his taggie blanket and he just watches me and my hubby. I do talk to him but try to keep the A less excitable than the morning as we're beginning to wrap the day up.
4:30pm - roughly time for his last nap.
5:30pm - wake from last nap. After waking we usually just hold him and play quietly or sit him in his chair and play.
6:45pm - feed.
7:00pm - bath and bed. On a good day is asleep in his cot by 7:30pm.
11pm - dreamfeed.
He is dummy dependent to get to sleep and I know thats my fault from when he was little. I did try to get him to go for a nap about 2 weeks ago without it but it was absolutely awful. He screamed solidly for over and hour and make himself sick so I gave it back to him. I know I made him endure all that screaming and stress for nothing, and I did feel so, so
but I really didn't see any other option as he was so distressed. As I said, he has sometimes woke at the 45min mark and simply gone back off once I've popped it back in, which I didn't mind as it was my fault he needed it, but somethings changed that.
It's interesting when you say overstimulation can cause this. We've just got back from a few days at my in-laws (where this 45min waking started happening actually) and they are the kind of people who, once Owen begins to start getting grumpy with tiredness, decide that clapping their hands in his face, taking to him loudly, walking around with him, turning on more lights etc are good ideas to try to stop him from crying
. I usually have to intervene and take Owen into a darker, quiet room to get him to calm down. Not fair on Owen, but I've told them countless times but they still continue to do it. Perhaps that could be the root and he's just taking a few days to adjust now back home? When we're home and he starts to get grumpy I give him his dummy and a muslin (he likes to clutch and bury his face in it) and leave him do his thing in his chair until he's nice and drowsy, and then I'd take him up for a nap.
I've also read somewhere that 4-5mths is quite a big time developmentally for them. Is it possible that he's just getting more aware of his surroundings and it's overwhelming him somewhat which is then making him overtired and overstimulated? I've noticed that he definately has trouble feeding if there are other people in the room as he's so busy looking at whats going on he takes hardly any bottle! Again.... cue my wonderful mother-in-law who constantly calls his name and claps her hands from the other side of the room when I'm trying to feed him
I'm not quite sure that I've got enough of a windown procedure. Once he's nice and drowsy in his chair I take him up to his dark nursery, swaddle him whilst talking to him gently, stroke his head for a bit and he drops off. If he's particularly fussy I'll have to hold him for 5mins in his nursery so he's nice and calm before putting him down. His eyes are closed once putting him down but he opens them again once I start to swaddle him so he does wake up and I'm not holding him to sleep. If he's very fussy and crying downstairs, again I'll hold him and talk to him for 5 mins to get him calm before taking him up and getting him nice and drowsy in the nursery. I know it's different a lot of the time, but it really does depend on how tired he is. He only ever has the dummy when he sleeps so I think the minute I give it to him he knows is sleepy-time as his eyes usually immediately begin to droop.
Whew, thats a long post but I think I've covered everything! Since this bad daytime napping he's began sleeping through the night again, so I guess every cloud has a silver lining
Thanks so much for your help. I'm quite keen not to accidently promote this waking by doing the wrong thing so it's good to get some advice!!