9 month old standing up...won't nap

[cambeladamom]

my ds is 9 months and has never been a great napper. (he seems to go in napping cylces, with some weeks being great, and other weeks being awful). he still struggles with the 45 min. mark. he goes to sleep without a paci, but we use it to put him back to sleep if he wakes up early. he also has a blankie. i have tried to establish a naptime routine of reading and rocking and then putting him down. this worked great until he figured out how to stand up. now he stands and screams forever! i have tried putting him down after he is asleep, but this rarely works, and i don't want to be a prop. letting him cry is horrible, and he usually then takes a very short nap. what do i do? this is so frustrating. any suggestions would be great!

[Colesmom]

Hi there,

I went through a LONG difficult time when DS was able to stand so I hear ya!

Do you have BWSAYP?  I would suggest reading the section on adapting PUPD for babies over 6 months.  Have you ever done PUPD?  The trick now is to not do the PU part, you only do PD.  Wait for your DS to stand and then gently lay him down.  You can say something comforting, "it's okay, just time for sleep" and then WAIT for him to stand up again.  Babies this age settle more quickly out of your arms.  I know it's hard to listen to him cry.  He is just telling you that he is tired and frustrated because he doesn't know how to get back down.

Also, I suggest spending some activity time in his crib showing him how to get down so that he can eventually do it on his own.

Are you sure his A time is long enough?  I thought my DS was teething because he would cry going down at every sleep. Turns out he was just ready to be up longer and was protesting going to sleep.  Around 9 months babies are able to stay up 3-3.5 hours.

HTH-good luck!

[cambeladamom]

thanks-it is nice to know that someone else has gone through it to. i am not sure i know the specifics of pu/pd, but i understand the general idea. do i do this until he falls asleep? i have tried this some, but not consistently. i get so frustrated that i am not "speaking gently" and he thinks it is a game.
about activity time--he is up about 3 hours...more in the afternoon. do i start winding him down at 3 hours or do i start before then?

[Livingmom]

I have been struggling with this exact same problem for the last couple weeks. DD has learned how to stand and watch out world. .  .

So my question is--that when I see her tired cues and we go through her naptime routine and put her in her crib--she starts to cry only when we leave the room. We have tried the P.D. method as explained in the BWSAYP, but when we are in the room she is rarely fussing--except for when we keep putting her down. (Does that make sense?) I feel like it is just a game with her. She has always in the past been a great napper, but this standing thing is really getting in the way. 

So my question is--do you PD only if she is crying or even if she is just standing. And if she isn't crying--does that mean she isn't tired? So confusing!