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Weaning question
« on: February 10, 2006, 19:43:21 pm »
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I'm not planning on weaning yet because I want to bf my 8 month old until his first birthday.  But he's VERY attached to my boobs and I think it's going to be quite a battle.  He does take a bit of water from a sippy cup with the band taken out so it's free-flowing, but as soon as he has to suck on something other than me or the paci he refuses.  So I was wondering how long should the process be? Days, weeks, months?  What would the proper way be? Reducing bf feeds and then complement with milk? Or eliminating feeds altogether but maintaining breakfast and dinner feeds?  I want to make the best choice for my ds, the less traumatic one.  I spoke to my lc but she wants me to bf for 2 years, I think that's too long. 

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Re: Weaning question
« Reply #1 on: February 10, 2006, 21:17:36 pm »
Hi there
There are as many ways to wean as there are babies but here are a few of my thoughts. Gradual weaning is going to less traumatic for your LO and your breasts - probably think in weeks not days. You've actually already started weaning by giving solid food so it's now all degrees from here. When you do start cutting back I would personally begin to eliminate feeds as that is something that seems to naturally happen when children self-wean. Go back to your LC and make her advise you  - she should work for you here!
It is preferable to avoid introducing a bottle if you can and you may find that he drinks a lot more out of a sippy cup by then. It doesn't have to be one he 'sucks'. I'm not sure how much experience of expressing/pumping you have but the best thing he could drink out of a sippy cup for 'practise' is your breastmilk. You could experiment with this as a more 'gentle' way of gradually reducing feeding at the breast. In the UK we are told that cow's milk is OK to drink from 1 year old but it has some deficiencies (Vitamin C, E and copper apparently among others). Your LO will need a healthy diet with a good range of fruit and vegetables and calcium rich foods. AAP talks about 16-24 oz of full fat milk a day still needed after one year but you can substitute with foods containing milk products like yoghurt.

As you may be able to guess from the fact I am still nursing Sam at 18 months I would suggest you think carefully before taking breastmilk out of his diet completely. I am thankful everyday for the fact I am still nursing Sam (sorry to sound sappy but it's true!) There are a bunch of reasons why a toddler can still benefit from breastmilk - here's one: breastmilk has a higher fat content than cow's milk which is a crucial ingredient in brain development. You probably already know that the World Health Organisation recommends breastfeeding until a minimum of 2 years. If you don't feel comfortable with this then that is obviously completely your choice but is expressed milk in a sippy cup something you're more comfortable with beyond one year?

Finally you are clearly someone who likes to plan ahead but don't let your worries about how you will wean affect your ability to enjoy nursing while you're still doing it! ! Whatever you decide (and I think you know where I'm coming from) congratulations on giving your LO a great start in life. Every day he has your milk is a bonus. A year is a great achievement and please come back to these boards for support as you progress.
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Re: Weaning question
« Reply #2 on: February 10, 2006, 22:46:48 pm »
I also wanted to add that:

* at around 1 year or when they start walking babies become distracted and care less for breast. They are so enjoying their new found mobility that they tend to forget about nursing. This is a good moment to wean, you don't offer, but instead replace nursings with some other nutritious snacks.
* later, after this phase is over, they tend to understand more and remember better, so if you really don't plan on nursing long past one year, it is better to gradually wean when they seem to be preocuppied with walking.
* I am also a nursing enthusiast, for all of the benefits nursing has to offer to a baby and it's mother. If you want to continue, you will find a lot of support here, if you don't we will help you go through this :).
* one of the best methods to wean is to avoid nursing spots like rocking chair where you usually feed, or any other places where it takes place. Instead, you should be able to offer him some distractions, go out to the parks at the time he would usually nurse, invite his friends over etc.
* do this gradually, it is better for your hormones and your body, you don't need mood swings and engorgement. I would say, one feed per week or longer sounds good to me, sometimes with a very persistent toddler it can take more time.

Another thing, you may want to offer him a cup with a straw, that worked better for my dd.

Good luck!

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Re: Weaning question
« Reply #3 on: February 11, 2006, 00:36:20 am »
We ran into a problem tonight, he's been biting me like crazy.  It got to the point where I bled on my right boobie  :-[ I had no expressed milk so I had to give him some formula.  I followed all of Tracy's advice " OUCH! That hurts Mommy!" and he kept biting me. I didn't know what to do becuase he was biting me so hard! I feel awful!
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Re: Weaning question
« Reply #4 on: February 11, 2006, 07:52:59 am »
Oh no - I'm so sorry. Have a look at the other biting thread I have just bumped. It probably doesn't feel like it now but it will pass. You may need to work at reestablishing your supply once it does. It will be worth it! How have the last few feeds been?
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Re: Weaning question
« Reply #5 on: February 11, 2006, 19:47:30 pm »
Well, I think I figrured out what the problem is.  As the day progresses my let down gets slower, becuase the morning and mid-morning feeds were fine, but O just gave him the afternoon one and he bit me again.  This time when I scolded him he cried and was lookingfor the boob right after I gave it to him and he didn't bite me again  ::).  Thanks for the biting thread, I read it completely and actually wrote asome thing down in a notebook for future reference  :-* Thanks for much for your support!  I want so bad to continue bf at least until his first bday.  I would also like to give him EBM afterwards, but in a glass, I don't want to keep him in baby mode, and he has such a strong personality I know we'll run into trouble if keep him at my breast  ;)  And we'll be able to pull it off, as long as he doesn't keep biting! ;D
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Re: Weaning question
« Reply #6 on: February 11, 2006, 21:24:58 pm »
I'm really glad you seem to have worked it out. Fantastic news. I'm also really happy to hear about your thoughts on using EBM. You sound like a determined and together lady!
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Re: Weaning question
« Reply #7 on: February 12, 2006, 01:06:56 am »
Actually, I'm the most disorganized forgetful person ever! But that is when it comes to me...and when I got pregnant, my dh my mom and me thought that I would surely forget the baby at the grocery store or to feed him!! LOL ;D And as it turns outs when it comes to ds I'm very very organized and on top of things!  Go figure, my little man was just the balance I needed in mylife.  Now if I could only remember where I parked my car!!! HAHAHAHAHAHA j/k
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