Hi
I posted a couple of weeks ago when my then 15 week old son started waking in the night, having slept through for about 2 - 3 weeks prior. It started then with a random waking pattern (some nights he'd wake at 2.30am, other nights 4am etc.) but got worse about 10 days ago. We thought he was teething at that point as he had red cheeks, drooling, chewing hands etc. but, having spoken to the HV and seen a doctor, then realised it was something viral. Me and my husband then came down with the same bug, which was a pretty bad cold/flu, and we're just about over it now. DS is much better although still coughing slightly...but the sleep is still really badly broken.
A typical day is like this: we're on 4 hour EASY (he has been on EASY since week 3) and he is bottle fed, and hasn't cried with hunger for weeks. We try to aim for 7am, 11am, 3pm, 7pm feed - bath - bed plus an 11pm DF, although this has slipped by up to 1.5 hours recently (i.e. sometimes the morning doesn't start until 8am - 8.20am) because of night wakings. During the last week or so, he wakes at around 2.30am and is intermittently awake then all night - i.e. up every 30 - 40 mins (like his daytime nap cycle, which we still can't shift) until around 6am when, if he gets back to sleep, he'll sleep till we wake him.
For the last 2 nights I've fed him at 4am and he's taken a pretty good feed (c. 180 - 200 ml/6 - 7 oz) as I think he may have been hungry - but he's still been difficult to settle after that.
He's having an average of 200ml (7oz) every 4 hours, although sometimes he'll have less (c.180ml) and sometimes he'll drain the bottle (260ml/9oz). He was born 7lb 1oz and yesterday was weighed at 13lb 10oz. I asked the health visitor if he might be ready to wean and they suggested we wait until 20 weeks min if possible. So...
(a) should we try the hungrier baby formula milk? (he's currently on SMA Gold) - and, if so, any suggestions as to the best time of day to try him? I think he may be prone to constipation already and I don't want to make that worse...
(b) will weaning help? I don't want to do it too early (see constipation, above!)...
(c) I don't think wake to sleep can really work for us as it's so random - last night he started waking only 1 hour after we put him down for DF
(d) we've tried making the DF earlier, around 10.30pm, and it didn't seem to help at all - it just meant we had even less time in the evening to eat dinner, sterilise, etc..., so we still do it at around 11pm
(e) moving out of the room? we'd like to keep him in with us until 6 months, as per FSID UK recommendations, but I wonder whether we might be going in too soon for some of the cries
(f) removing dummy - we use this as the first resort when we wakes and during particularly restless times, I'm sure he's waking 5 -10 minutes after he realises it's fallen out. Having said that, when he's on his game a bit better, the dummy is there as it should be - just to help him off for the first couple of minutes, then he doesn't need it.
Sorry for such a long post - any help really welcome. I couldn't find how to link to my original post but had some helpful advice from Jo then.
Fiona