Generally, when he wakes in the morning, we feed him, play with him, etc., then between 9am and 930 am, we tell him it is time for a nap. We read a story, 'say goodnight to the world (this was something my husband started based on the Goodnight Moon book), bring him in his room, and kiss him goodnight. Same for the afternoon nap. In the evening, he eats dinner then we put on his pajamas, and follow the same routine as for the naps.
We have read several books including Baby Wise (which I thought was militant), Healthy Sleeper Happy Baby, and the books by Richard Ferber. Over the last 12 months we have tried multiple things to get him to fall asleep on his own and to sleep through the night. We managed to get him to go down easily but have failed at getting him to sleep through the night. We have tried having him sleep in our room, going into his room as soon as he starts crying, and letting him cry it out. I dislike letting him cry it out as it goes against all my maternal instincts. However, for the several months that we went in at the first sign of a distress cry, it seemed to produce more frequent awakenings.
We are frustrated that the books offer conflicting information and we realize that there is no one answer. We are willing to try anything and are open to any suggestions you might have. Thanks