Hi, I am new to this board and have a little boy who is just on 5 months.
I read BW when he was a newborn (fantastic book) but only discovered this site recently. I would really appreciate advice on implementing a routine with my boy. At the moment we are still struggling with 45 minute naps and are on a 3 hour feeding routine. Reading through the site I can see that ideally I should be trying to extend his feed time and nap times but am a bit confused at what to do. I have ordered the book from the library again and will probably buy it but would like to start now.
Our general schedule is as follows:
6ish - wake, breastfeed
Quiet playing in bedroom, chatting with Mum
7:30 - sleep (generally goes down quickly and easily)
8:15 - Wake, activity
9:00 - b/f
Activity - lying on floor, playing with toys, some time under playgym. We might go out at this point and he'll fall asleep in the car at naptime, I can usually transfer him into his buggy and he'll go back to sleep for a bit
9:30/10:00 - Sleep
10/10:45 - Wake
Activity - play on floor, etc.
12:00 - Bf, small amount of solids
12:30/1:00 Sleep
1:30/2:00 Activity - generally chill out outside under trees, talking and cooing
3:00 - Feed
Generally he will not sleep again until bedtime. I usually put him down but he'll generally coo in his cot for up to 1.5 hours or sometimes get really wound up and I can't soothe him.
Around 5:30 Bathtime
6:00 - Feed time (long feed for at least half an hour) and I usually have to keep waking him cos he's so tired he falls asleep
Sleep - generally through to about 6:00ish. He might wake once in the night but my husband goes in and gives him, a retuck and pat and he'll go to sleep.
Sometime he will wake earlier and I will adjust the times accordingly, by the end of the day I will feed at 5, have a bath, give a top up and put to bed around 6:30 if poss.
As you can see, with the short naps he is feeding near the end of activity time and generally will not tolerate being up for more than 2 hours and sometimes less. He goes down okay, usually talking to self for around 10-15 minutes sometimes getting louder but rarely needing settling. If he does cry I gently rock him with my hand on his chest and say shush. This will work if he's overtired. If he keeps crying I sometimes get him up and might put him down 10 minutes later but I don't like to do that as I feel that he should be in bed!
My main concerns are:
By the end of the day he is often really tired as he is missing late pm nap and will often fall asleep feeding. I usually wake him to make sure he has had enough and give him a top up after bath if his feed was due before otherwise he wakes early. He is also quite fussy and needs lots of attention - he's usually happy if I am carrying him around or playing quietly with him.
How do I lengthen his naptimes and will this mean he will be less tired in the late afternoon?
Do I need to be extending his time between feeds and which do I do first?
Will additional activity time mean that he will sleep longer?
Any advice would be appreciated. There is so much info on this site I am a bit confused as to how to do things. Also, we do baby swimming and a music programme plus coffee group, is it okay to tweak his routine to accommodate them or should I tweak the activity. For example, it takes me just over half an hour to walk to our music programme and he usually falls asleep in the buggy and is ready to join it by the time we get there, is that okay to do? The other option is to pop him to bed, get him up and arrive later but if his naps are all wonky we'll miss it altogether... he loves music and dancing around and is beginning to be really interested in other babies and children so I would like to enhance that if possible. I feed him there and then the walk home counts as another nap... is this too disruptive?
Thanks in advance...