Sorry for the miscommunication. The part where I said that I "don't believe in CIO" should not have been connected to the "you have to do what you have to do..." That is, I have NEVER let my babies CIO, nor will I, nor was I trying to encourage it, Garretsmom. I was TRYING to explain that can only do your best and to not get so hung up on whether he sleeps 1.25 or 1.5 hours, etc. I think the BW suggestions/methods are generalizations, and that each child has its own rhythm, and not everything will work. From my reading of the books, I think Tracy said that, too. That said, her methods work, (generally), and are child friendly.
Also, when I typed "perfect", I didn't mean that the BW methods were to make your child perfect, hence the quotation marks. What I was trying to communicate is that I sometimes get frustrated because I get into my head that if I follow the BW advice, my child will/should be as "good" as those cases outlined in the BW books. I was trying to explain that each child will have his/her own rhythm, and that you can't compare them. I guess e-mail has limitations.