Hi there
I'm the mother of three children, so you'd think I'd know what I'm doing, but my 4 month old daughter is NOTHING like my two boys were. A little background....Laura was VERY big at birth...she was 11 lbs 4 oz
Now at 4 months, she's 18 lbs 12 oz. She was exclusively breastfed until a cou;le of weeks ago, when I started her on rice cereal, hoping it would satsify her. She's been nursing every hour and half since birth. She's never nursed longer than 5 minutes at a time, which is why she's nursed so frequently. She's never been a napper. She's taken cat naps only when being held, so several weeks ago I got tough and started putting her in her crib (we've never co-slept). She has never taken more than one hour naps, but mostly, they're only 30 to 40 minutes. She was sleeping 8 hrs at a time at night, until she got a double ear infection about 4 weeks ago, and ever since then, she's up anywhere from 2 to 4 hrs all night long. I used to nurse her before naps and bedtime, but I've been trying to get her on a 3 hr EASY schedule, so I stopped nursing her before sleeping, and now I just sing to her (which worked!).
She is a Spirited baby. She can't sleep unless swaddled. She can't be awake for long, because she gets really cranky. Even having her awake for one hr is sometimes difficult. The odd times she gets a good sleep, she is the happiest, sweetest baby on the planet! However, when she overtired, she will often cry and fuss all day long.
We are both so sleep deprived. Even when she does nap (however brief), I can't, because I have two other children who need time with me as well. Last night I had a meltdown, when she fussed all afternoon. I was going to put her to bed at 6, but after her bath, she was very happy and sweet, so I extended it to 7 pm.
The only constant, is that she's usually in bed between 7 and 7:30 each night, after her bath and being nursed. From then on, she's up at around 11, 2, 4, 5, 5:30, and 6
Can you do anything with a baby like this? She refuses pacifiers (I've tried them all), and bottles (I've tried them all). For the past four months, I haven't been away from her for longer than an hour. I love her to death, but I'm seriously going insane. Her 'schedule' is kind of like this:
6 am wake up
6:30 am nurses for about 5 minutes
7:30 am either nap or we have to get the boys to school (so naps in the car)
8:30 am cereal and nurses for 5 minutes
9:30 starts cryiing, so down for a nap
10 - 10:15 up from nap, screaming (try patting her, but gets more hysterical)
10:30 starts getting cranky, so I try nursing
11 am Crying, so upstairs for nap
11: 30 up from nap
12 noon veggies and 5 minute nurse
1 - 1:30 nap, depending on how fussy she's been (usually the whole time)
2 pm wakes up, crying
2:15 nurses
3:30 nap
4:00 up from nap (mommy starts banging her head)
4:15 nurses
5:00 really starts crying and freaking out, so nap attempt, but no go
6:30 Cereal and nurse
7:00 Bath, nurse, swaddle
7:15 Down for the night, with little to no crying
11:00 First wake up for the night, etc.
As you can see, I suck
Anyhow, if you've read this, I thank you for your patience. I just read Secrets of the Baby Whisperer, but my friends said I should get Solves Your Problems instead. I am picking it up from the library today (my husband will kill me if I buy another one...I have Healthy Sleep Habits, No-Cry Solution, Happiest Baby on the Block, etc.)
Thanks so much!