Hey Tawnya, thanks for the reply. To answer your questions:
- sh/pat with eye shielding - I've tried it not long ago. It took ages for her to settle and when she finally did, she woke an hour later. Plus, my back is killing me, and dh can't stand to hear her cry, so I don't think I can use this one.
- wean her off the night feeds by cutting down minutes every few nights - I've tried only giving her one side, but she screams when I put her down, like she's been cheated. I have also tried to de-latch her early, when the gulping slows down, and again, screaming.
- gentle removal (also haven't used but thought i would have to at one point) - I actually have the original book. Don't know if this would work as she de-latches on her own. It's like she needs to suck on the boob for a while and then she'll go down fine, she's not actually falling asleep on the boob.
- when your lo cried in the night how long do u leave her before getting up? i know even a minute can feel like an eternity when u are woken out of a sleep to screaming, but maybe trying to leave her a bit longer to see if maybe she can settle herself? - I've tried it already. It just gets worse as time goes by. She only settled once on her own, because I was in the loo and couldn't go to her
, so I tried to stop myself from going in to her too soon, but she doesn't settle. That time she did settle, she woke at an irregular time.
- what is her daytime schedule like? - She's pretty much on 3-hour EASY, sometimes will nap better than others, sometimes will go 3.5 hours between feeds.
- does her routine possibly need tweaking?? I've thought about this too, but don't really know where to tweak. She is slowly departing from the 3-hour routine, but her A time is still short, so I don't really know how to help her move along.
Anyway, my point really was how do you eliminate feed-as-a-prop night wakings when they still need night-feeds .... When do you feed them ?? ??
I have tried to get her to take more during the day, but she won't eat any extra.