Hi there,
some advice would be great as I'm stumped, and don't know what's causing this or how I should repond to it. In the last couple of weeks or so my lo has started waking in the night at around 3-4am, and can't get back to sleep. On the occasional night she does sleep through to about 6.30am. When she can't get back to sleep she gets pretty fustrated, and starts grumbling. This gradually gets louder and louder. When it gets to a certain level I go in to check on her but I can't seem to help her, my presence doesn't help her to relax more, and there's nothing obvious distressing her, or that I can give her. She doesn't seem to be upset about anything other than not being able to sleep.
I'm not sure why she can't get back to sleep, and I'm also not sure how I should respond to these wakings, should I go in more or less, should I stay with her or not (I have tried staying with her and also going in and out quickly, neither seems to make a difference). Should I not go in at all until she's crying properly. I have started to get her up earlier than the norm, today we started the day at 5.30, I thought her trying to sleep in the cot from 3am was long and fustrating enough, and it wasn't going to happen. Do you think it would have made more sense for her to stay in the cot until her normal wake-up time? This is obviousy affecting our routine and I'm worried about bad habits forming.
My Lo is eight months old next week, is breast fed and on four hour easy. She goes down for her daytime naps and at bedtime very well and usually falls asleep within 15 min. Her routine used to go something like this.
7.00am wake/ breastfeed
8.00am solids for breakfast
9.00 sleep usually for 2 hrs
11.00am wake/breastfeed
12.00pm solids for lunch
1.00pm sleep usually 1.5 hrs
3.00pm breatfeed
5.00pm catnap for 0.5 hr
5.30pm solids for tea
7.00pm bedtime
She is addicted to her paci, but most of the time she is able to find it for herself in the night. I have thought maybe she's sleeping too much in the day for her age and have tried to lengthen her awake times but it's been a bit tricky as she's so tired from being awake all night. She is trying to crawl (not yet succeeding) and has eight teeth already. I think her first molars are on the move also.
Your thoughts on what might be causing these night wakings, how long they may go on for, and how best to deal with them would be great. Thanks.