I am new to the board also, and have the same problems. Sam is 4 months old, and goes to sleep well, but needs to be swaddled and soothered. If the swaddle comes apart, or soother falls out, then he wakes up. What I am trying now is to each nap, swaddle him more loosely and keep one arm out. Then two arms, until he gets used to having his arms free. Then I will tackle the soother issue, not sure how though...he wakes up in the night and we rush in and put it back in....any suggestions would be appreciated....