you have a lot of things going on that i would say is your problem, what is your routine? i would try to fix one of these things at a time, i think you are going to have your work cut out for you but you can do it, i did not feed dd at night at 81/2 months old, she didn't just sleep we had to help her to adjust to no more feeds, have you read tracy's books? this will be your first step in the right direction, get the last book, i think it will help you the most, please keep posting and asking questions, we are all here to help you,