hi all, i have posted here b4 and got WONDERFUL help and support..so here i am again.
ds (7 months on the 27th) was an "ok" sleeper up till 5 months. he went to bed late (11) and woke to nurse around 2-3 then 5-6 and woke around 7-8, but he was only taking "catnaps" during the day (no longer than 45 minutes) so i got the newest book and tried a few things. first off ~ we moved bedtime up to 7 (wonderful) and wake time to 7...this was great. pu/pd only made him more upset, so we stuck w/ pat/shush which worked well and it took him about 20 minutes to fall asleep. wakings pretty much stayed at (df) 11, 2-3, 5-6. during this time most naps were down to 30 minutes (2 sometimes 3 a day). well, soon he started taking longer to settle w/ me in the room so i would go do something (switch laundry, etc.) and when i got back he'd be asleep. great. so then we got to the point of laying him down and walking out, he'd fuss or mantra cry for several minutes then pass out. still only 30 minute naps, but he'd sleep from 7-11 in the evenings and this was MAJOR improvement. but then, he started crying longer and harder.....we gave him 5 minutes, then 10, then 20....when we got to that point it was CIO and i didn't want to do that. so....we thought he was eating too much at night and not enough during the day so 2 weeks ago dh went to him at night (i slept in the basement) and he did ok. i fed him at 7 pm and then dh would bring him to me at 6 am ~ we did this 3 nights and then i got worried about him not eating enough at night (stupid me). so i started feeding him at 1 again.....well now, things are NUTS. he won't sleep during the day unless i am holding him....pat/shush is not working at all and WORST OF ALL for the past week he has been waking every 1-2 hours and last night he was up every 20-45 minutes. i am not kidding here....i couldn't believe how often he woke. i felt so bad for dh (he has to get up at 4 am) cause he was going to him since ds wants to nurse when i go. so, after the WORST night he's had yet...he was wide awake at 5am and i got him up at 6.....he just fell back to sleep in his swing. what am i going to do? is all the crying now from the short bout of unintentional CIO we fell into? here is our "sort of" schedule
7 ~ wake
8 ~ solids
9 ~ nap (this is pretty much gone now...he WON'T go to sleep at 9 and after fighting it the past 2 weeks he usually just passes out around 11:30 or so)
1 ~ nap (same as above....he used to at least go down at 9 and 1 even though he only slept 30-45 minutes)
couple of nursings in here somewhere
5 ~ solids
6/6:30 ~ bedtime routine (bath most nights, massage, books, nursing)
7 ~ sleep
11 ~ DF
please help...should i just go get the book from the library again and start over? i have tried so many things and not stuck to them and dh is getting frustrated w/ me. 1st i tell him let's not feed him at night, then i say i think i should feed him at night (i see now that that makes his wakings worse), then we tried to just let him cry for a bit to settle, then i said i don't want him to cry at all.....ugh. sorry this is so long...please tell me where to start. THANKS!