totally agree with the pp's about the temperament of kids. I have an aunt who's always bugging me about my "naziness" and bragging about her lo always sleeping on couches/arms of everyone, everywhere no matter how loud we are etc. She has an angel toddler who is the mellowest person in the world and thank God for that cause that poor baby was not entitled to a routine!
Anyways, my monkey is a different movie. He needs a strict schedule otherwise we pay it for MONTHS:no sleep, grouchy kid... you get it.
When we have good rows of sleep we "allow" ourselves to be a little "naughty" and take the pack n play to wherever the gathering is and put him to nap there. FOr nightime we'd leave early (WE NEVER MESS HIS TIME) and put him down, get someone to sit him and then go back to the party. Yep, hard work, we get critiziced but then again, we're the ones who pay for it if we get on a bad row. it all depends on how hard you have to work to get them back on track, it's all for the sake of the family. If your lo's are easy going and won't have many days off because of a getaway, you can allow yourself that... i know i can't, at least for now and that is my way to enjoy life for now, getting decent sleep at nights LOL.