I've been trying to extend my lo's naps for two weeks now!
I've tried wake to sleep, pat/sh, PU/PD.... I've spent the last 2 weeks in a darkened nursery with my arm falling asleep and my head on the side of her crib... and I'm falling apart. Right now, DH is in there with her, failing miserably at trying to get her back to sleep. He sent me out because, after 2 weeks, I can't handle it anymore. Oh, sure. I eventually get her back to sleep, however, I have to be in there the whole time. No, she can't see me, but for some reason, I can never get her past the hump.
I'm bawling my eyes out as we speak because I'm so frustrated. Reading the success stories does nothing for me but aggravate me even more. I can't spend my "Y" time in her nursery, which is pitch black! I would let her just take catnaps all day, but she is so cranky when I do that. I've had to deal with colic since the end of December and now I'm having to deal with this! Why is it that some of you have success after 2 or 3 days, and I've given my heart and soul to this and it's been over 2 weeks?!
I'm at the end of my rope. I tried CIO at night time a few weeks back, and it worked. However, because her daytime sleep is so poor, we are back to about 6 or 7 wakings a night. Her colic already burned me out, and because I have to sit next to her crib to get her to calm, I don't have any time to rejuvenate myself.
What am I doing wrong?! I'm a religious person, even, and feel abandoned by God. Why can i not teach this child?! I love her so much and have completely isolated myself in order to help her, and it doesn't work. PLEASE help me. I come to these boards almost every hour on the hour, hoping... and praying... that someone can help me. I try to extend her A time.... doesn't work. I've tried moving bedtime earlier... she takes it like a nap. I can't put her on 4-hour EASY, because that means that sometimes I'll feed her right before a nap, plus, the poor thing gets so upset if she wakes and it's not time to eat.
My mom and my inlaws say i should just leave her be... let her catnap all day. But they don't see how cranky & miserable she is when I do that. No one understands. They aren't on my side at all with this because all they see is a mother who is burned out! with the effort. It makes me ache inside. When my lo was a month old, i started EASY. After 4 days of failing, I took her to the pediatrician, because all my baby did was scream. The dr. told me that she was too young for me to worry about schedules, especially since it was giving me an ulcer. She also said that my lo had sever colic, and that there was no way this could work. Now, she's 4 months, and, after a visit to the chiro. doing much better... but I can NOT fix her sleep habits to save eityher of our lives! A month of trying... and failing.
Right now, she is screaming at the top of her lungs, and my dh can do nothing to help her.
PLEASE, PLEASE help me. I cannot raise my child if I'm constantly crying!