Hi! I'm hoping someone here can help me. We have been having sleep issues with our 14 week old son since he was born. After a month and a half of major accidental parenting (the only way I thought I could get any sleep was to let him sleep on my chest because he cried when I put him down), I found the BW books and started using those techniques. Since then, we have come a long way (my son sleeps in his crib now!), but we still have a ways to go. He still wakes up many times every night--sometimes every 45 minutes still. Here is our info.
How old is your child? 14 weeks
What’s his/her daily routine? See below
What’s nap routine? strip down to diaper (He gets hot in the swaddle), snuggle while walking around a quiet house a few times (he never falls asleep here, but it really helps to calm him down), turn off lights and pull shade in room, turn on lullabies and fan for noise, swaddle, put in crib awake and kiss.
How long are naps? sometimes sleeps for 35 minutes, sometimes for 2 hours, and often anywhere in between (I have kept a log of our days and nights since I started this, and can't find any pattern ..) Sometimes needs S/P to resettle several times, sometimes sleeps through on his own.
What's bedtime routine? Time? Start at 6 pm. Bath, massage, story, turn off lights, turn on music and fan, long breastfeed, snuggle with Mom and Dad for 30 minutes (if I lay him right down after he eats, he spits up a bunch. Dr. says mild reflux.), swaddle, in crib awake at 7:30, kiss.
Do you bottle or breastfed?? Breast. Bottle of breast milk once or twice a week
How much? or how long? 10-15 minutes. 1 side only, except right before bed, when he wants both (I think he is trying to nurse to sleep at these times, so I'm careful to keep him awake.) During the day, if I feed him from both sides, he seems to get uncomfortably full, and spits up alot more.
If breastfed.. one side or both?? (at each feed) See above
How many wakes per night? Between 3 and 9
What’s your LO like when waking at night? How long is he/she up? Crying. Sometimes I can settle him in 5 minutes, sometimes he's up an hour or more.
When you go to him/her is she fussing or crying? Or is it a mantra cry? Really crying
What have you tried to settle?? P/S, holding legs so they don't flail (he is constantly jerking himself awake, even in the swaddle), hand on his chest. When it's been more than 3 hours since he last ate, I feed him, and then he has to sit upright for 20-30 minutes (I think this is where one of our our problems is because he sometimes falls asleep on me during this time, but I'm not sure what to do. He will take a full feed at these times)
What do you do for A time and how long is it? Variety of things: walks, stroller rides, age appropriate toys, tummy time, vocal play, etc. Between 45 minutes and 1 hour and a half--I watch for cues.
Are there developmental issues such as teething or milestones? Turned over tummy to back for the first time this week!
Have you introduced cereal? Why, how much, and how many times a day? (for LO’s under 6 months) no. Pediatrician advised it to see if it helped with sleeping, but I'm afraid that, with his digestive troubles, it might make things worse
Do they have a prop? If so what is it? paci, but he refuses it alot now
Do they have a lovie?No
Daily schedule (times vary daily, except for night routine):
Up between 6 and 6:30
E 6:30 or 7:00
A usually 45 minutes is all he can stand
S Sometimes 30 minutes, sometimes over an hour
A Depending on what time he wakes up
E 10
A 10:20-11:15/11:30
S We try for an hour and a half
E 1
A 1:20-2:15/2:30
S We try for an hour and a half
E 4
A Till 5:00
S Cat nap in the front carrier as I work around the house (I can not get him down in his bed for his nap here--he fights it the whole time and ends up cranky and overtired)
6:00: Bath, massage, story
E 6:30-7:30
S In bed awake at 7:30 ish
E 10:30ish
E 1:30ish
E 4:30ish
I know that at his age and weight (14 pounds) he should not be feeding every 3 hours at night, but he seems to wake up hungry at these times. Actually, I don't mind getting up at these 3 times if he would not wake up all the other times. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. The whole mini-reflux thing is really hard--I feel like he neeeds to be kept upright after a feed (elevating his crib didn't help), but, as I said, he sometimes falls asleep on me here. Thoughts? Thank you!!!