First of all, I apologize if I'm on the wrong forum. Please let me know where to go for help if I am!!
Oh please, please, someone help me! My daughter is 5 weeks old. I haven't been able to pinpoint which 'type' of baby she is as things seem to be different every day. I'll give a list of my main problems and would greatly appreciate any suggestions, info on what others did, or simply encouragement from moms who had the same problems at this stage, and have come through it and are now successful with EASY. Just please don't tell me it took a year to get there!
Here goes:
1. The only thing that's kind of going right is the E. (Well, most of the time...) She eats every 3 hours like clockwork. Unless of course we've had a very bad day and her sleep has been disrupted greatly due to discomfort. If she's not had much sleep, I've been letting her sleep to catch up and to give me as much peaceful time as possible. I'm afraid if I wake her and feed her we'll start the whole terrible process again, and who knows when I'll get her back to sleep.
2. I have another daughter who will be 3 in July and she makes it IMPOSSIBLE to do the 4 S's in peace to get Kelsie settled for sleep on time. There is no one here to help me during the day, so Annaliese constantly interrupts and disrupts the process. I've tried movies, snacks, activities she can do alone to keep her occupied, but I find the only way to be sure Kelsie will be asleep for the long-haul is to stay by her side for a very long time. As you can imagine, it's not possible to expect my other child to sit quietly and leave me alone for 45 minutes while I tend to her sister.
3. The main reason it takes so long to settle Kelsie is that she's constantly bothered by some sort of pain. Annaliese had reflux, so I went to the doctor the other day and wouldn't leave until they gave me a Rx for Zantac for Kelsie. She has been exhibiting symptoms as well, and with that on top of the gas she suffers from, one type of pain or the other keeps her from getting into a deep sleep and staying there. I figured if I at least could for sure treat the reflux problem (yes, I elevate the mattress, etc..) I could try to tackle the gas problem by staying with her and 'reading' her and pick her up to relieve the gas pains before she got out of control. If my husband is here to keep Annaliese occupied, I can sit with Kelsie and pick her up to burp her (it almost always works) as soon as she starts showing discomfort, then put her back down to sleep. Of course when I'm alone I don't have the luxury of staying with her to wait for bubbles to come up. She'll usually fall asleep fairly easily but wakes up crying in pain soon thereafter and I have to go in and start over again. Again, if I'm alone, I can't follow through for the full amount of time necessary because I have my other daughter who needs me too. By the way, I use gas drops with every feeding, and I do stop during feeds to burp her whenever she slows down or I hear her gulping air. I've already changed her formula once, and after switching my other two kids (I also have a 12 year old son) to soy with no improvement in their gas problems, I don't think it's an issue of a real intolerance to the formula anyway.
I'm afraid I'm going to be told that this is what newborns do and I have to wait for her to grow out of it. The problem is that my other daughter, who used to be the best kid in the world, is (understandably) acting out like crazy. I feel awful that she's pushed aside as I try to care for Kelsie. I'm really not enjoying either one of them right now, and I cringe whenever I hear one of them wake up. I fear the times that they're both awake because one has to suffer while I'm tending to the other.
My husband is in the Army (Special Forces, so he's gone A LOT, and for long periods) and is due to leave for 2 months in just a few days. I was so hoping to have Kelsie on a somewhat predictable routine so I'd know that I'd have time to focus on Annaliese to keep her from acting out to get negative attention. Not to mention, time to myself to save my own sanity!
The real question is... am I just stressing myself out trying to conform to EASY? Should I just go with the flow until my baby is more able to deal with life outside the womb?
Should I try to stick with it, even if the only things that I can control are eating times.. and should I be sure to keep them at every 3 hours no matter what the rest of the day has been like?
What if I have to spend most of the time between feedings carrying Kelsie around because she can't be settled due to pain (or her sister being loud)? How is that going to affect EASY later on? Won't that cause 'accidental parenting'? And is there any way to avoid it in these situations?
And finally, I'm noticing that the wake-up time is a big starting point. I feel that may be really tough since the night time sleep is so sparse. For me, anyway, as I find myself sitting by her bassinet in her room for up to an hour after night time feeds to make sure I can pick her up to burp her before the gas gets severe.
OK, that was a loaded post, I know. Any support would be so appreciated! I will also post my specific sleep problems where necessary. Is there anywhere to ask about gas and other pains throwing a monkey wrench into the EASY system?
Very tired,
Andie